Why is he now ignoring me?

[annie-47]

I mean it's one thing if you go on one date and he realizes that he just doesn't like you, that's the whole point of getting to know one another - but this guy that I was seeing for a week or so said he really really liked me and it was pretty obvious that he did too, and I felt the same. He kissed me on the cheek, we've cuddled and held hands. All of a sudden he completely stops texting/talking to me and avoids hanging out.

He told me the last time we hung out that he's not quite sure he wants a relationship but he still likes me - but now I realize that he just doesn't want a relationship with ME. I saw him on the dating site that we sort of met on (we also know each other from a church group) and he was online and everything... So obviously the whole "not wanting a relationship" thing is untrue.

This isn't the first time it's happened to me. I made sure he knew I was interested in him, I texted him and such, though when he ignored my texts I backed off and left him alone... So I don't know...? I don't get it. He was just about as great of a guy as it can get and he still is capable of hurting my feelings... I was beginning to really like him and feel like I had a future with him. It wouldn't hurt so bad if he hadn't seriously lead me on...

[annie24]

The good news is that you only spent a week with him so you can move on quickly. You'll feel better in a few days. I know it sucks when you meet someone and there is potential there. but he didn't think so. oh well.

[Ms Darcy]

How did he lead you on? He told you he didn't want a relationship (with you) but liked you. It was only a week. He didn't lead you on.

 

In dating there are a lot of guys who can be very affectionate without wanting more. They enjoy the physical but it doesn't mean more than that.

[annie-47]

Umm, He definitely lead me on by telling me repeatedly that he really liked me and wants to keep hanging out.....

[Ms Darcy]

After a week, it sounds like he was overexcited. It was a week. It's not like he was dating you for months and saying he wants a relationship. That would be leading you on.

[offplanet]

A week is a very short time and people are entitled to change their minds. It's not something a person can really help when it just happens. It's all part of the process of finding the right person. I think you might have taken it too seriously, which I know is hard to do when you really like someone, but don't get too emotionally invested till you've been with someone a while.

[missmarple]

It wasn't nice of him to just disappear like that but these things happen. He's probably met someone else he liked more and wasn't brave enough to tell you. It happens all the time in the dating world, unfortunately.

[person100]

Umm, He definitely lead me on by telling me repeatedly that he really liked me and wants to keep hanging out.....

 

 

Totally agree with you here. I can't fathom telling someone that I really like them and that I want to continue seeing them, if I didn't actually want to. I do feel he lead you on to a certain extent. Be glad it was only for a week. It still sucks though - why do some people do this!?

[Ms Darcy]

Totally agree with you here. I can't fathom telling someone that I really like them and that I want to continue seeing them, if I didn't actually want to. I do feel he lead you on to a certain extent. Be glad it was only for a week. It still sucks though - why do some people do this!?

 

It's changing your mind, which is normal so early on.

[goodheartlady]

His actions - sorry to say - speak loud and clear: he is not interested.

 

There is really nothing "not to get." This is a very black and white situation, and he is crystal clear in his intention.