iDrum Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Everyday I nearly cave in. I hold that phone and I try to keep myself from calling. I keep my hands off of my car keys to prevent myself from driving to our college and waiting for her to get out of class so I can speak in person, in hopes that it makes a bigger impact. When I'm at work I do the exact same thing everyday, so I LITERALLY switch to autopilot. You know what happens then? My mind runs and runs on thoughts of her and what steps I should take. It's sooooooooo hard! One of the hardest things I've ever had to go through. I'm 21. It has affected me emotional AND physically. The rate at which I breathe is affected. It's such a heavy feeling. I just have so many questions I want answered. Why this and why that? Why give up after 2 years? But you know what? I snap out of it, and it gives me more strength. It's me grieving. And that's okay! The cut of my break up is only three weeks old. I think I'm being too hard on myself to push through and forget her, instead of accepting the pain. Any thoughts? Link to comment
Lucha Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I can relate to the 'caving in' feeling.. It is so hard to accept that a person that once loved you to pieces can now ignore your existence as if you never dated. Your breakup is still fresh so I wouldn't worry about that, it's totally normal.. I am 3 months post-BU and I still feel like sh*t and utterly confused and a little bitter even. What helps is venting your emotions to a close friend or, in case you don't have any, this forum. It has kept me from sending texts and emails many many times. Link to comment
kathy679 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Me too, im 2 months bu and every day is a battle. Its effected work,sleep, eatting. Everything. I was with him 2 years also. I keep getting told it gets easier. I hope it does. Someone told me it takes about a year, i hope it doesn't take that long Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I was with a guy for 8 yrs....it took about 4-5 months. But you do have to focus on other stuff --- not the past, not what "could have been", not anything but YOUR future without them in it. Link to comment
iDrum Posted February 25, 2014 Author Share Posted February 25, 2014 I was with a guy for 8 yrs....it took about 4-5 months. But you do have to focus on other stuff --- not the past, not what "could have been", not anything but YOUR future without them in it. 8 years??? That's sure sure is something. How were you so strong to get over him in 4-5 months. If that was me I'd be in a mental institution. I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I was in a relationship for 8 years and it ended. I need your strength. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 25, 2014 Share Posted February 25, 2014 Because he cheated on me -- and if I was honest with myself, the relationship was a habit -- I did not see spending my life with him. And because I realized I had lost "me" some how in the process, so I set out to find what made me happy. Link to comment
Victorb Posted February 25, 2014 Share Posted February 25, 2014 Because he cheated on me -- and if I was honest with myself, the relationship was a habit -- I did not see spending my life with him. And because I realized I had lost "me" some how in the process, so I set out to find what made me happy. ^^^^This. I'm young and I was in a 6 1/2 year relationship and she had the GIGS and cheated. A day afterwards, I remembered so many times that I couldn't imagine my life with her because she did not appreciate me and my world didn't matter to her. It comes down to Am I happy? and if the answer was No, it's not because of her, but because I haven't done enough to make myself happy. Link to comment
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