Noticing my codependent tendencies. I want change but repeat same mistakes.

[bluevacuum]

I've always been reliant on women to give positive regard to feel good about myself. Now that I'm noticing my codependent traits. When a girl doesn't gives positive regard, ignores, or anything to disregards, I feel really low about myself like I'm not good enough.

 

I think it's my childhood abandonment actng up.

 

How do I stop relying other sources for self esteem?

[bluevacuum]

Mods, please move to healing sub forum

[savignon]

There's a renowned book called "CoDependent No More" by Melody Beattie that's really great and therapy is a wonderful tool as well.

[Ms Darcy]

I've always been reliant on women to give positive regard to feel good about myself. Now that I'm noticing my codependent traits. When a girl doesn't gives positive regard, ignores, or anything to disregards, I feel really low about myself like I'm not good enough.

 

I think it's my childhood abandonment actng up.

 

How do I stop relying other sources for self esteem?

 

This realization is another sign you are not ready to date.

 

Ask your therapist this question.