Damaged70 Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 So I have been trying for the last 3 months to show my ex wife that I still love her, she has been letting me stay over and no sex or anything but just hanging out. There was a guy in the apartment complex that she has been hooking up with, whatever he is like 26 we are 42. Anyway I am pushing really hard to show my love, well tonight while sleeping with my kids in the front room, she drinks a bottle of wine and goes over to his house. I just packed my stuff, kissed the kids goodnight and left. I will not be talking to her for a while, its total BS. I am going NC and moving on. I Tried!! Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 hang on you havent left the kids alone have you ? Link to comment
Damaged70 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 No she walked back I walked out no talk Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 No she walked back I walked out no talk oh cool good . You did the right thing ...that is terrible , she used you as a babysitter to go over to him , that tells you everything you ever need to know , it was cruel and disrespectful . You can't really go NC , because you need to sort out when you see the children ....and I would make sure you don't see them at hers or you may find yourself back in the same boat . you did try ..and for 3 months you have tried ..you know that and I am sorry it hasnt worked out ...but you need to look after you and those little ones now , I am sorry it turned out like this . Link to comment
Damaged70 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 She is really messed up, she drinks at least a bottle of wine everynight, its how she Unwinds, whatever, she is dependent on it. Sad for the family. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 yeah it is very sad ... are you ok ? do you feel ready to walk away now after last night ? Link to comment
Damaged70 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 I would end up being a doormat Shooting Star, I have been pushing and she has been pulling its time for a break I believe. We were married 12 years and divorced now for 3. But I thought I would try, and all I got was used. I feel it was really selfish when she knew how I felt, even though we were not together Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I would end up being a doormat Shooting Star, I have been pushing and she has been pulling its time for a break I believe. We were married 12 years and divorced now for 3. But I thought I would try, and all I got was used. I feel it was really selfish when she knew how I felt, even though we were not together yeah I agree ...you would be used as a doormat ..anyone who can get drunk , go accross to another man while you are sat there has no respect .. look you gave it a go ...as hard as this is you know you have done all you can to try and sort this out . Link to comment
lerenard Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 If she has a drinking problem you need to get full custody of your kids. Or you don't want that? You deserve better, you made first step already, hang on there. Link to comment
uniqueme Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 NC is the right way to go, she was just using you and you deserve much better Link to comment
Kendahke Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I wouldn't leave my children in the care of a drunk. I'd go for full custody of them and limited visitation for her til she gets her mess together. Link to comment
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