itsallgrand Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 Do you think you are fully emotionally available yourself, sav? Have you been, is there a difference now? I've never been specifically attracted to bad boys. I have had a tendency to be attracted to men drastically different than myself; basically reliable, good men (I am attracted to that) but where there were root in capabilities and I knew it. Part of it was, I've been that person who would go a certain distance and then that's it - couldn't commit deeper than that. I'd act out, run away, and the only relationships prior to my very last one (which was brief, under a year) were with men who had that same aspect to themselves where they didn't want to/couldn't commit past a certain level. Something changed when I went to therapy,and was single for years. I barely even dated during that time. For me, it shifted with me putting into me the things that I was -without realizing it - not being able to contribute or give. I mean, I'm still on my own journey of sorts with it all, but who I am now and what I offer is very different than 28 year old me. And who Iam attracted to now is reflecting that. Also, who I don't bother getting into things with too! Basically the men who are still working out who all they are and what they have to offer. Link to comment
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