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Text back or not? ...confused


levie

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So I've been in contact with a new person - he's in LA - I am in SF right now until next week when I go back to the east coast.

He sent me messages on okc paying me a lot of compliments and said he'd like to take me out for dinner (but when and where he didn't specify). He asked for my number and continued texting - but when I asked whether he's coming to SF or inviting me to LA - he said -too soon to come to SF - he was on a trip abroad. He said he wanted to get to know me - see my pictures - I sent him some.

 

Now I got confused - so I said I prefer not to text but to have him call me.

 

Since he got back to US on wednesday - he phoned me - and said the same thing - that he'd like to meet me and possibly move back to New York - that he has license to practice there. He said he got off OKC because besides me he hasn't met anyone nice.

He said he'd phone me same evening - but I haven't heard back and the following day - yesterday - I texted and asked how he's settling - and I sent him a link to my website - he called me twice - (I had missed both calls accidentally) - and phoned him back.

 

He said he'll look at my site - told me a little bit about his work and said he'll let me know when he looks. I saw he got back on Okcupid same day. (i amnot sure what it means if anything)

Same evening yesterday he texted me: "Fantastic work " ..and ""gifted lady" ..which are both very nice.

I saw he looked at my linkedin.

 

Do I reply to him? Do I need to? I am so confused.

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Are you interested? Are you really confused or you are you trying to find a reason to keep communicating? It doesn't sound like you find it very promising...but I don't want to put words in your mouth.

If you WANT to respond, what is holding you back? And given that reason, do you still want to contact him?

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Yes of course I do. I hesistate how to proceed because he said to me very serious things - he said " to have a serious relationship with and eventually marry if the fit is good. "

But texting isn't calling and isn't meeting. I want to make sure he follows through what he said he wants.

It is that his intentions match his actions...so in that light...I don't know whether to text him back

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If I were looking to get married/settle down, that would be a time in my life when long distance would especially not work for me. But that's me. If you're still interested, then you should definitely respond/call him, text back or whatever you want.

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