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The answer is: Yes. Size matters. Size matters to the people it matters to.

 

The people who it doesn't matter to will not write such threads.

 

The people who it does matter to will write such threads.

 

You're in the latter group. So that answers your question.

 

You're asking in order to be validated in feeling this is a legitimate concern. The truth is that it's only legitimate to the people who feel it's legitimate, just the way someone's car matters or doesn't matter, depending on who you ask, how much money someone makes, etc. You're not going to get a UNANIMOUS, satisfying consensus, not one that matters. Because even though a preponderance of women would not be bothered by a more modest penis (and some prefer it), that would not be the answer you're fishing to hear. If every woman on this board disagreed with you that his AVERAGE -- which it is, based on what you said -- size means nothing, would that make your vagina happy?

 

I'm tired of people talking about penis size (which is to say in the same breath, vaginal size, because it's only your size relative to his that's making you dissatisfied -- so the thread could just as easily be titled this way, referring to vaginal size) as a determinant of sexual compatibility. It's an excuse for lack of creativity. If you can give yourself a great orgasm with a finger on your clit and one inside, you can perfectly well find ways to enjoy something 3 times the size of that in there, physically speaking. If the lack of being stretched more during intercourse specifically (and this sensation can change, depending on angle, position, etc.) is enough to make you question how you'll feel in the future, when you've got a great guy in your bedroom who's ready to please, then yes, the answer is yes, the penis/vagina size very much matters and I agree that you should leave him since it is enough to actually worry you.

 

You're not a horrible person, you're just someone who cares about penis/vagina size/fit to the extent that you're prioritizing it over a lot of other stuff that's harder to find than a large penis. No one can speak for your priorities, but one can speculate that they could lead to choices you may regret down the line. But you can't know that except through hindsight, and it might not happen, and you seem young enough to have time to find out, so my advice is the same. I suggest leaving him.

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Whoa, do not know why so many people are calling you shallow... That said this falls under sexual compatibility, if two people have differing sex drive, it is sexual incompatibility and results in tension. If one is into a fetish and the other is not, it is sexual incompatibility and results in tension. If one is unable to fulfill the others sexual need then that is sexual incompatibility and results in tension.

 

You are not being shallow. You have a preference and it is as simple as that, don't let idealistic strangers bully you into believing otherwise.

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And hardly any women are invisible. There is always some guy willing.

 

That's true. Like guys with a rotten tooth and bad breath.

 

I don't want to derail this thread, but I'm soooo tired of this theme on ENA that women can "always find someone". Men can, too -- the woman would just have nose hair and nipples hanging around their knees. So let's get that clear: if you're okay having sex with a blindfold on, a clothespin on your nose, and earplugs in your ears, both genders could find SOMEONE WILLING TO SCREW THEM.

 

And that's all I have to say about that, thanx, let's move on.

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Agreed. Some guys like Asian women ... for example. A woman can't "hit the gym, get spanx, or wear makeup" to be like that. Some preferences are unchangeable traits and that's OK.

 

Totally!

 

And also got to point out, spanx only works with you're clothed. Ha.

 

 

actually, for the shallow women that might actually be enough #punintended #couldnotresist #sorry

 

Boom!

 

 

And how is he suppose to know which ones don't mind it? These women don't wear shirts that say what size they like. Which means he might have to go through all the same garbage again because some random woman expects a pornstar, and anything small isn't a real man to her.

 

A man is a man regardless of his penis size. Gender identity is determined between the ears after all.

 

That said, it's ok for people to prefer certain physical attributes in potential romantic partners! I have never expected a partner to have a p0rn star size wang. I'm fine with average length. I prefer thick over skinny when it comes to girth.

 

To answer your question, talking about sex in general terms on the early dates can help a guy to get idea of what sort of preferences and attitudes she has towards sex. But dating is about determining compatibility. There's so many deal breakers you can't tell about someone by just looking at them!

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A man working hard in the bedroom should be enough to make up for any so called incampatabilities.

 

"Bertha has consistently failed at reaching her minimum sales quotas, and her lack or results are dragging our average down, but she works soooo hard, we just can't let her go" #saidnooneever

 

that said, I'm off this thread. you and your hurt feelings are too toxic. I hope the OP listens to ToV and the others who pointed out that it's ok to like or not how a person makes you feel in bed, and that not everyone must be compatible with one another.

 

have a good one!

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So it was his fault that you were thinking about another man? Wow. That is rather delusional.

 

Of course it was his fault because of his evil little penis.

 

Sarcasm aside, I think it was his sexual insecurities that turned her off. It got to the point where she couldn't enjoy intimacy with him. As a result she started fantasizing in bed.

 

And what does a woman being short and small have to do with anything?

 

I think she was implying with a woman of a smaller stature she likely was smaller downstairs as well, therefore was a better physical fit sexually for the ex.

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I second ToV (in both posts. I'm equally tired of that theme). My ex has a large one, or maybe above average. But large enough for my own size. But you know what? I'd prefer the emotional chemistry. My relationship with him dwindled. I didn't feel that good with him and as a result, my body soon acted accordingly because whenever I had sex with him, I literally felt nothing. That's my body telling me it's over.

 

But I still think you should find someone else. You're wondering about this, this EARLY in the dating thing. It's going to niggle at you. Best to move on. If you do, later on, feel differently about size (e.g., size do not matter), you'll need the experience to appreciate this relationship. You can't now.

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Wanting them thick is still porn star like in my eyes. It still means big.

 

Ha! It's clearly subjective, but most men who worry about their size are obsessed with length not girth.

 

And thanks to p0rn, so many men who are average length (which is around 5 inches or so in the US!) but have average or above average thickness fret about being "small" because they're not 8+ inches long. Telling them you consider them p0rn sized will NOT sink in.

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"Bertha has consistently failed at reaching her minimum sales quotas, and her lack or results are dragging our average down, but she works soooo hard, we just can't let her go" #saidnooneever

 

You just compared sex to business. Wow.

 

hat said, I'm off this thread. you and your hurt feelings are too toxic. I hope the OP listens to ToV and the others who pointed out that it's ok to like or not how a person makes you feel in bed, and that not everyone must be compatible with one another.

 

Yep, like him based on his size. Forget about personality or anything else. Sounds like the right choice.

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Ha! It's clearly subjective, but most men who worry about their size are obsessed with length not girth.

 

And thanks to p0rn, so many men who are average length (which is around 5 inches or so in the US!) but have average or above average thickness fret about being "small" because they're not 8+ inches long. Telling them you consider them p0rn sized will NOT sink in.

 

And most women that say size doesn't matter like to add that they like them thick. That seems size queen like to me. At least it does to us guys that aren't freakishly blessed.

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jonny you have to stop derailing every single thread that is even remotely about penis size, it gets seriously annoying to read...you have more than 3000 posts yet you only made one thread yourself, and even that was about an off topic subject, you never ask for any advice here, but you derail a lot of threads with your own false ideas about women....I wish the mods would do something about it because you have so many weird ideas about women, it is offensive to be honest!

 

to the op, I would give him a few more chances, if he is a great guy things can develop, and I think to be honest, if you love someone, truly love them, these things don't matter...to me they don't anyway...

and a great guy doesn't come along every day you know?

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to the op, I would give him a few more chances, if he is a great guy things can develop, and I think to be honest, if you love someone, truly love them, these things don't matter...to me they don't anyway...

and a great guy doesn't come along every day you know?

 

Thanks sara, i find this comment very helpful. i was just looking for some constructive advice (that to be honest were on the positive side as i like the guy).

 

Some posts have been funny, i released not to get upset as it isn't even personal to me (some replies seemed to spiral out of the original topic and i think were based more on a judgement of what i said rather than seeing beyond and giving constructive advice/opinions).

 

Anyway interesting stuff, i have gained a lot from the constructive answers (whether i agreed with them or not they were helpful rather than judgmental/critical ) thanks and all the best to everyone.

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Whether size matters is up to you. It sounds like he is fully capable of using alternative means to get you there. If you let him. If you think of physical intimacy as a way of communicating, then exactly which tools he uses to communicate are less important.

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Size matters to some women, some get excited at a big weewee, others just like the idea of having a man with one.

 

With my friends... a small weewee is an automatic goodbye. I know very few women who would say it doesnt matter. I know some really good, mature, experienced and deep women who have turned away men with sexual dysfunctions, they know this can build up to a loss of attraction at one point - at least through their eyes.

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It's been 5 weeks and you two are only just starting. Give yourselves more time to explore each other. It's way too soon to give it all up under a pretext of 'bad sex' when in fact you havent yet experienced it and you don't know whether it'll be good or bad in the end. Size does not matter cos if it did we women would only be sleeping with gigantic dildos. As soon as i read opening post i found a (possible) solution in sex toys. If i was in your situation i'd rather try to add few gadgets in then think about dumping a great guy.There really is no reason to give up this guy whom you say is pretty perfect in every way just cos of his penis size. I'm positive if you two are into each other you could have a very fulfilling sex life. Get inspired.

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Sex toys? Why should she have to resort to that? If he's got a small penis then he's got a small penis and she should move on. don't give me that rubbish about "love" and so forth because in the end she will just be feeling frustrated by his small penis.

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Sex toys? Why should she have to resort to that? If he's got a small penis then he's got a small penis and she should move on. don't give me that rubbish about "love" and so forth because in the end she will just be feeling frustrated by his small penis.

 

Why she would or wouldnt is entirely up to her. I personally don't see why not, if the objective is good fun fulfilling sex life.

And i don't think i mentioned anything about "love" cos it's been only 5 weeks after all.

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Why she would or wouldnt is entirely up to her. I personally don't see why not, if the objective is good fun fulfilling sex life.

And i don't think i mentioned anything about "love" cos it's been only 5 weeks after all.

 

But your asking her to settle for sex toys when she shouldn't have to. If she doesn't want a guy with a small wang then she doesn't want it.

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dont let anyone on here make you feel bad for expressing a genuine concern of yours. thinking his penis may be too small to keep you satisfied is not shallow! i do think that if everything else is going well and he is good at foreplay then that means a lot. iv found sex to be pretty rubbish or mediocre the first time with exes regardless of their penis size because we were nervous and it sometimes takes a couple of tries to figure out what people, especially women, really enjoy in the bedroom, so dont judge the sex based on one time. if i have feelings for someone it is a million times better for me... so maybe date him for a while and see if you find his size doesnt bother you. its really too early to tell and if he is good at foreplay that is half the battle.

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