Am I the only one having sn EXTREMELY hard time going through with divorce?

[wilyone 11]

For me, the worst time of all was during the period you're experiencing right now: all the agonizing over what to do. The confusion, indecision, back and forth, fighting with myself. It took me a couple years to get the strength to permanently end it. It actually wasn't until he accepted my decision and stopped fighting it that I could leave in good conscience. After that, it was a piece of cake.

 

I can only imagine how much harder it would have been if we'd had kids. Be easy on yourself. Eventually you will get there. It is a process as other people have mentioned.

[ilovemykids]

I can for sure see this being the hardest time for me as well. You described it perfectly wilyone 11! The funny thing is, having kids only makes me want to end it more because I realize that I don't want my son to turn out like him and I don't want my daughter to marry someone like him. That's what is so frustrating to me, is that I know divorce is probably what's best, but I always stay I just can't imagine myself going to him and telling him I want a divorce. I have tried about 4 different times in the last 3 years and it's always a really weak attempt. I know that like you said, if he just accepted my decision and stopped fighting, it'd be a piece of cake for me too. So frustrating!