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Movies about friends couldn't become lovers or lovers trying to get together ?


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Me and my best friend just gave up on each other a few weeks ago.We were in love but we didn't confess it and then one day she couldn't wait for me to tell her that i love her anymore so she decided to give up on me and started dating a guy whom she rejected a long time ago because she was in love with me back then and now when i ask her to go out with me to talk about all the things that i couldn't say to her before she suggested watching a movie.I want to watch a movie with her that talks about friends were in love but could'nt become lovers or lovers find a way to get back to each other that kind of stuff.The only film i love is The Vow but she already watched it a few times and now i'm all confused.Any suggestions ? ( would be better if it's not a really old film like Gone with the wind , Casablanca,..)

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If you never confessed feelings for each other, what makes you think she has feelings for you?

 

There's one film I am trying to remember, but can't. The only other film that I can think of is Zack and Miri Make a Porno, but it's humor may not be lost on either you and/or your friend.

 

I really think, trying to send a message via a film is a very passive way to dealing with the situation.

 

If your friend is dating some guy, then I recommend you leave her alone. Stop chasing her and stop treating her as a "ready to go girlfriend".

 

If she is dating someone, then just leave her be. Let her date whoever she wants.

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See this is what I don't understand. You had strong feelings for her. You had her exclusive attention for quite some time. You say she is your best friend, but you refused to tell her that you had mutual feelings of love for her until she decided to quit waiting for you to own your voice and threw in with a guy who made his declaration and NOW you want some Hollywood movie to use to tell her what YOU SHOULD HAVE OPENED YOUR MOUTH AND SAID?

 

That's why she's with that guy and not you. You waited, you lost.

 

If you have feelings for someone, open your mouth and own your voice. Speak up for what you want. She will say "yes" or "no". Not asking for what you want will get you what you already have: not what you want.

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thanks guys for all the comments but what i'm trying to do now is just go on a date with her to watch some movies and just show her all the things that i wish i should have told her before.I know she's with someone else and i respect that,i really want her to be my girlfriend but i know i have to accept the fact that she's in love with someone else not me.I never had a chance to really talk to her about all the little things i did for her before except some messages but i think that's just not enough.I'm just trying to let it all out when i get a chance to be in a private space with her and talk about all that stuff so i don't have to regret and dwell on that later.

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thanks guys for all the comments but what i'm trying to do now is just go on a date with her to watch some movies and just show her all the things that i wish i should have told her before.I know she's with someone else and i respect that,i really want her to be my girlfriend but i know i have to accept the fact that she's in love with someone else not me.I never had a chance to really talk to her about all the little things i did for her before except some messages but i think that's just not enough.I'm just trying to let it all out when i get a chance to be in a private space with her and talk about all that stuff so i don't have to regret and dwell on that later.

 

She has a boyfriend now who is not going to appreciate you pushing up on his girlfriend to "just go on a date". She is not going to get the hint by watching a movie with you. Each person gets out of a film what they get out of it--that's the beauty of the director's work. What you get out of it will not be what she gets out of it.

 

You DID have a chance--all those years you and she were best friends--and you chose not to say anything to her.

 

You HAVE to own your voice and speak your truth, even if it gets you shot down. When you do that, then you never, ever have to live with regrets of not doing what you should have done. The matter is settled, but at least you said your piece.

 

The consequences of your (in)action is that she was available for you to say whatever it was you needed to say and you didn't do it. She apparently gave you time to say your piece and still you didn't until another man stepped up to her, owned his voice, stood in the center of his truth and spoke it to her and now she's with him. I think it would be quite selfish of you now to say something to her about your feelings because it would come accross looking like you're a sore loser... that you can't stand that she's with someone who is doing what she wanted and wasn't afraid to speak his feelings to her. IMO, that's manipulation.

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Agreed, now she is dating something. Not someone else, since you two never dated.

 

thisisbmh, please let go of the thought of you two together or it will just eat you up. I had to cut all ties to a girl I was interested in and then she turned me down.

 

Even after they broke up, we did not date. I never asked her again after my first attempt, she made it clear she was more interested in someone else.

 

You can't "wait out" the relationship and then try to scoop her up. When a relationship ends people need time to grieve the loss. It could take weeks, months, or years.

 

You obviously, have a strong attachment to her, but for your mental health, I recommend hanging out with completely different people. And prepare yourself to find other girls to date.

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