Letting go of narcissistic man

[reinventmyself]

As my sons would say. . `Dad likes 'em a little ditzy'

He and his current girlfriend get along great. I like her a lot for whatever it's worth

And my therapist adds that an N works best with someone who is selfless.

Is he different with her?. . absolutely not, but he has found a better match for himself.

It doesn't take anything away from me at all.

He used to think we'd get back together. .

I told him he wouldn't be able to stand me anymore because I found my voice.. . that and my spine for that matter.

[gone]

my therapist adds that an N works best with someone who is selfless.

 

This is exactly my experience. And the problem was, I didn't want to be selfless. THAT'S why my relationship ended. I wanted to have a career, my own friends, and my hobbies, just like I had had before I met my N. I knew, I had chosen myself over him. And I also knew you should never feel like you have to choose, because in a healthy relationship, the other person cares about you enough to want you to have those things as well/what you need as well!

[Allipie]

I told him he wouldn't be able to stand me anymore because I found my voice.. . that and my spine for that matter.

 

oooh mine didn't like it when i found my voice and stopped being passive.

and its true too that they work best with someone who is selfless. Everything had to be about him and i was a willing participant until it came to ME needing him.

[reinventmyself]

This is exactly my experience. And the problem was, I didn't want to be selfless. THAT'S why my relationship ended. I wanted to have a career, my own friends, and my hobbies, just like I had had before I met my N. I knew, I had chosen myself over him. And I also knew you should never feel like you have to choose, because in a healthy relationship, the other person cares about you enough to want you to have those things as well/what you need as well!

 

I could have written this. .

[flying guy]

Continued from my previous post above. I read a handful or psychology articles and I found she is a "High Conflict Personality" It is very close to narc. attributes. Reading about it was like a basic bio on our relationship. It fits her to a tee. It showed me I had so much patience and I did not even realize it. It was fight or flight over a little conflict and she would put the blame on me. And she was always out to prove me wrong about things when I am easy going and could care less about the topic at hand.

 

I been having a hard time the past few days from missing her.

She sent me a txt on Friday saying she wants to talk to me but she knows she shouldn't. I have not responded and not sure I should.

[Allipie]

Continued from my previous post above. I read a handful or psychology articles and I found she is a "High Conflict Personality" It is very close to narc. attributes. Reading about it was like a basic bio on our relationship. It fits her to a tee. It showed me I had so much patience and I did not even realize it. It was fight or flight over a little conflict and she would put the blame on me. And she was always out to prove me wrong about things when I am easy going and could care less about the topic at hand.

 

I been having a hard time the past few days from missing her.

She sent me a txt on Friday saying she wants to talk to me but she knows she shouldn't. I have not responded and not sure I should.

 

run as far away as you can.

 

mine just texted me saying its not fair that i always placed blame on him (???)....like I made myself feel depressed and his actions had nothing to do with it. These people are just...insane. Save yourself a lot of heartache and move along with you life. It's seriously not worth it at all.