He broke up with me, made excuses, and now he's seeing someone new

[goldenbaby]

You both have good points. Now I doubt he knew the reason why... I don't know if he lied consciously or not, but when he explained himself to me, he always seemed to be grasping at straws.

I just wanted a proper explanation because I wanted to stay friends with him... but I realise that it doesn't matter now. We will never be like how we were before our relationship, and I don't want to either. Not after what has happened.

 

I wouldn't worry about why. You want a man who is confident about you.

 

Thank you Ms Darcy... It's true. He's not a bad guy, though... he's a great friend towards his buddies, but not boyfriend material; not for me at least. I want someone who's sure about me. Someone who wouldn't think twice about his feelings for me. I will start with a clean slate this new year, and focus on myself. Sooner or later someone better will come along, but I won't rush it.

 

I won't wallow in what ifs and whys anymore, so I won't post anymore in this thread. It was nice to just talk it out, get feedback and to look at things from another angle. Thanks to you all!

[Ms Darcy]

Trust me, I used to TORTURE myself trying to make it work with wishy washy guys. The I found one who had no doubt. It's like a whole different world. You deserve that.

 

Good luck in this new year!

[Lonewing]

One of the hardest things to learn how to do is to break it off from people who aren't everything you need/want/wish for in a partner. And when they leave, it's also difficult. Look on the bright side, you're free right now to build yourself towards that relationship that will last - best of luck!

[goldenbaby]

Thanks to the both of you! This year was one of the best, but also one of the worst I've experienced in my life. Not only because of him, but also because of other occurrences. So I'll work for a better 2014. I hope next year will be great for you too!