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Hi my first post here and my problem is my girl friend of about 7 years who used to like sex now will not have any it started being less and less as happens in relshonships after the honeymoon period but in the last 2 years we have only had sex about 5 times none at all for over 12 months and when we did them 5 times it was only because I started it every time iv tried since shes very angry with me will even get upset to the point I cannot even put my had on her thigh without her saying stop it no sex shes also quite moody and doesn't like me out or at work ect when shes home I feel very controlled now it was never like this till a couple of years ago when the lack of sex started also if she thinks I have been masturbating she will go mad im not really sure what she wants me to do she knows im always really horny and it drives me mad, I know find myself looking at other women ect but id like to sort this out not leave her but its looking the only option. also I found she had been looking at porn not in the last few months but she maybe using ie privet now but why would she look at porn but not show any interest in me? it was anal and tied ect porn not normal stuff she knows im open mined if that's what she wanted to do so don't think she wants that but wont ask.

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thanks for the reply's, If its the case that she is not interested in me shes plenty of chances to leave I almost wish she would least I would know where stand!.

if I ask she turns horrid towards me normally she says why dose it have to be about sex but its not like I want it all the time a year is a long time for me and im not even allowed to masturbate fair enough if we where having sex but no not even on my birthday.

I try and do allsorts for her she has lots of pets I look after them all we are on a farm so she has goats sheep allsorts takes me a hour before work and after admitted some are mine too but she takes the mick I even turn down work to be home with here it costs my business to the extent I only do half the hours I used to.

I rarely see my m8s and she never wants to go out I suppose its not just about the sex but that is a big issue

am I being mean if I leave because of the no sex because I can see her sticking to this for years and I don't want to guilt trip her into it.

makes it harder she lives with me and I feel I would leave her with nothing she has a house to go back to that's rented out but still most the things she has here she couldn't take there.

I really don't know where to go from here im not a nasty person and find it hard to stand up to her always end up giving in to her with things.

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You are allowing her to treat you this way. You are both together now, out of convenience in a platonic relationship.

 

What do you mean you are "no allowed to masturbate". That is absurd. It is your body to do with what pleases you (alone).

 

I think it is time to tell her to prepare to move home. You speak nothing of love/compassion/fun ---

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Honestly, suddenly no sex in a relationship probably means she is getting it somewhere else. However I dont know that for sure. All you can do, is sit her down and ask her about it. Ask why, in your opinion, she seems reluctant to have sex. Best you can do.

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