Would appreciate some advice in my situation =)

[DifferntString]

Hey all,

 

I don't often reach out for advice when it comes to dating; but my recent past with love leaves me not wanting to screw up again. You can read through my post history to find out how my fiancé became my ex-fiancé, and how that really affected me; but I feel as though I'm over that situation, and have been ready to think about being with other people again.

 

Anyways

 

For the past few years, I've had a really good friend I met in Uni. We still hang out a ton, we still chat almost every day, et cetera. We're good friends; but I recently realized I have a ton of feelings for her. I mentioned that I do have feelings for her, and that I would like to ask her out someday; but she said, at the moment, we should focus on being friends. She's never been in a serious relationship, and is nervous about pursuing one. I respect that, and have not pressed the feelings any further (we still spend plenty of time together) but, to be honest, I'd still love to pursue something with her.

 

Do you guys feel it'd be better to lay back, and focus on the friendship? Or should I be honest, and take a huge risk? I mean... I really doubt it would ruin our friendship, but I have a ton of fear of losing people since what happened a few years ago.

 

Thanks!

[SpottiOtti]

It sounds to me like she's already rebuffed you, albeit politely and with an excuse. Bottom line is, if she felt the same way you did, you'd know it. Sorry man.

[jjkk]

I'd hang back and focus on remaining friends for now. You say you feel ready to date other people so start dating other people.

[Ms Darcy]

She has very nicely told you she is not interested romantically. Let it go and stay friends.