DancingFool Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This is what's a bit baffling to me. You say you don't have time for dating, but you have time for a hook up? What's the difference? Two hours once per week are two hours once per week. There are a lot of men who are busy, single dads, etc., etc., etc. who would totally love to find a woman who only needs them for an evening a week or so. Have dinner, have sex, see you in a week kind of a deal. The thing is that they would consider that dating, monogamous, etc. It would be something safe and suitable for you both. However, if you proposition them for just sex only, those same men will get weirded out and run. The dangerous part is that you are putting up an ad that is the equivalent of a call girl. That will attract men who can be dangerous. The rough reality is that you are taking on same risks as a street walker - he could be a pervert, he could be violent, he could rape you, he could beat you, etc. He could be just a normal guy too, but the probability of normal is less and the probability of abnormal is that much higher. Thus the danger factor. When you choose to engage in risky behavior, there is no such thing as staying safe. If you have just two hours per week to socialize, then use those two hours wisely. Cultivate a friendship. You need that. If that friendship eventually turns into FWB, then that's a whole different ballgame. Friendships are not about full on engagement. Even just dinner with a friend once a month or so where you just relax and step away from your work and problems can make a world of difference. You don't need to give give give, you need to relax. Link to comment
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