He won't get his stuff

[lea2503]

Broken up for 3 months, he's been with new girl for 1 month, together for 2 years.

 

We swapped most of our thing just after we broke up, but there is still a load of his stuff at my house.

 

Everytime I've told him to get it back he puts it off, and the last time I said about it he said "do you mind holding on to it for a bit, there's no rush

 

It's not even little things either, it's expensive stuff!!

 

Don't know what to do and why he doesn't want it back?

[Snny]

He doesn't want to face you and is in a new relationship. Leave it be.

 

Put his stuff on ebay since you have given him ample opportunities to get them. That is all you can do.

[SapphireNoir10]

I'd tell him there is a rush and he either comes and gets it now or you will pack it up and leave it on his doorstep.

 

How inconsiderate of him

[Ms Darcy]

Give him an end date or you are donating them to the Salvation Army. Put your foot down.

[john45]

Give him an end date or you are donating them to the Salvation Army. Put your foot down.

 

Second that!

 

Its been 3 months, ample time for him to make arrangements to get his stuff. Leaving it where it is means... he doesn't have to make any effort, and the stuff is an inconvenience to you rather than him. Perhaps give him 2 weeks to get it out, into storage or wherever he wants it - its his stuff and not your concern. If he doesn't do that, you'll assume he doesn't want it, and deal with it as you see fit.

[Moontiger]

Send him a text: "Your stuff is in boxes on at the corner by my house. If its still there tomorrow I will sell it."

[doicare]

I had an ex leave me for someone else also after two years. I held on to her stuff with the hopes of her coming back. She did 3 months later. She took her stuff and I felt totally used. I suggest u just dump it on his door step. It'll send a pretty clear message. At least it'll be on your terms and you don't look angry in the process. I don't recommend the garbage unless of u give him some warning, like telling him you're putting his stuff in a box and leaving by your door at this time. Don't be his storage please.

[Mesemene]

I would tell him politely "You may be in no rush, but as you've moved on, it's only fair your things move on WITH you. I'm not your personal free storage facility. Call/text me with arrangements for you or a friend to pick the stuff up by (reasonable date, say December 23rd) or I will donate it to charity in your name."

[HeartGoesOn]

I agree with everyone here, however make sure to put this in writing, and/or save any form of correspondence just to cover yourself.

[louisecar]

ya i would shove it all in boxes and out it in a shed or out of the way. like heartgoeson said, u have to be careful he doesnt seek legal action if you get rid of it all. and i wouldnt leave it on his doorstep because if theres a lot of stuff it means hassle for u movin it and free delivery for him. dont make it easy on him. shove it somewher out of ur way even if you can store it in a friends shed for the time being.

[annie24]

Give him an end date or you are donating them to the Salvation Army. Put your foot down.

 

Exactly! I am sure that there are some poor people who would really appreciate new presents this time of year.