tattoobunnie Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 MY HUSBAND has been working on his associates degree for over 12 years! OMG - is he a procrastinator. I hope you realize, you cannot change him. Ultimatums will just make him resent you, more and more, and more with each day. What I would suggest is making what he has to do beneficial to him, or fun, or spicy, and make it a "we" thing when you can. Like, let's wash these dishes now, so we can catch that awesome movie. Or, I feel really scared about the car, I'm really nervous - could you take a look at it now? (Make him be the hero) Or bring up safety with the kids, or great deals you can get if you act asap. Demeaning them into doing something, emasculating them - will make you super ineffective when it comes to a procrastinator. And it's only to nag, just be cute about it with the teasing - like, I figure it I ask you now, it'll get done two weeks from now, and be factual with dates you originally asked. Just to make a point. And call them on it. Don't rely on your hubby if he hasn't done it...then do it yourself if you can. Or just stare at him, get in his fact (cute though), until he does it. Just take a deep breath, and focus on why you love him. And remember - just because you're married doesn't mean you can change them. Love them for who they are, so it's just gonna cripple the marriage. Keep in mind, procrastinators have deep-seeded issues, so you just have to come at it without acting like an authority figure! Good luck. Deep breaths!! Link to comment
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