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I have NO idea how to role play. Help me!


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I am a 29 yo woman with a new boyfriend that I really care about. While he hasn't brought it up to me yet, I know that he is into role playing. I would love to try that with him, but have never done anything like that in my entire life. It's not that I'm not open to it - I am, I just don't want to go into it knowing absolutely nothing about it! I know this sounds dumb, but can someone please break it ALL down for me into VERY basic steps and give me a play by play (yes you can leave out the sex, lol). I just can't understand if it's just costumes, or if it's a jokey thing, or if it's serious, or what.

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It can be jokey, or serious, or costumes, or all three.

It sounds a little stupid but maybe try joining a text based role play site (the game kind, not the sexy kind).

It's really just like that. You come up with a scenario, a character for yourself, set base rules, and just get into it.

Talk to your boyfriend about what sort of scenes he likes, who he likes to be. Talking about it for a while before trying can make you more comfortable and give you time to work on your character.

That's all I got, haha, sorry. It's a little hard to teach, but I do think doing some nonsexual role play can help you transition into real life intimate role play.

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It really depends on what your partner is into, its impossible to explain step by step with out knowing what he likes. But the gist of it is, its essentially acting. It's playing a role- depending on what role it is. You have to kind of get in character. So consider yourself an actor for the evening. I think you should talk to your partner about it, find out his likes and go from there. Its really hard to figure these things out with out talking to your partner.

 

For example- some people are into student teacher role play- depending on what role he wants to play- does he see himself as the teacher? That would mean he's more on the dominant side, might like the idea of the power over sexy student. Maybe he wants you to play the sexy teacher...wants you to make him stay for detention because he's failing sex ed so you can show him how its done Or maybe cop and robber- He might want to arrest you for being too sexy. Think plastic hand cuffs, lots of frisking and 'assuming the position' .... all just some general ideas based on popular role plays. I realize these sounds like bad porn plots haha but basically you will be acting out a scene like that so its not that far off. Main advice would be talk to him, figure out what he likes and go from there. Good luck!

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I tried it and i felt weird. I was married and my ex was some woman i ran into. I dont usually get shy or embarrased, but my face turned red and i found it painful. I really wanted to try for her, but i couldnt.

 

I think once you break that comfort-zone, and start early before any routine kicks in that everything else is "weird" or out of place- then it would be a lot easier. Maybe do the dressing up part with no roleplay, then start adding little stories, then build to acting things out. Eh, wth do i know, lol.

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