Who Will Join Me - 30 Day - Mind, Body and Soul Improvement.

[Mesemene]

oh fab

 

 

I am in silver I need this too , I am struggling right now with life and I need to remind

myself of all that is around me .

 

mes , funny you should say that , I too am adopted but when I traced my birth mother she told me genetic cancer ran through the family ..so I have to have mammograms every 6 months .

 

Unfortunately, I was adopted out of the country.

 

The only information available was background as far as nationality, age, and that bio parents grandparents "died of natural causes."

 

Since, apparently, that covers everything up to terrorist bombing, it's just not that helpful. Add that 40+ years ago so much less was known about varying conditions and it's kind of scary.

 

This is the first doctor I've had that was proactive about any of it. He's very blunt - but very "into" prevention being better than a cure whenever possible. And his basic stance was to assume the worst as far as genetic weaknesses - and act accordingly to try and balance it out.

 

It's nice to know I have company in this boat, though!

 

Side note: today was first day at health club. So humbled. But crawled away with more determination to get in better shape.

[Realitynut]

I wrote out eviction notices for my youngest boy, and his two buddies who live upstairs.....then i locked my door and took a bath. Baking a big Ham for Tom. This week we put bright blue lights on an evergreen tree outside his house. It's over 20 ft. high. Tonite we are going to put on another string around the bottom. He always wanted a blue Christmas tree, and he says now because of me he has one!!

 

I laughed cuz he's so cheap, and he spent $100 on 3 strings of lights!

 

He loves his new room....painted in terra cotta, and gold. Very warm and inviting. He uses a wood burning stove for heat, that sits in that room also. I told him he now has a little Mexican hacienda! lol

So I've improved his life greatly.....now on to mine!!!

 

Sometimes it's easier to 'fix' other people...than fix ourselves!

[zentoCC]

This sounds great I'm always putting off things I should do and browsing the internet instead. Say for instance now I should be in bed in 15 min and my hair soaking wet and I'm on here.

 

I'm out all day tomorrow with my friends but I hope to read a book for book group on Thursday, it's James and the giant peach by Roald Dahl!

[Silverbirch]

Today I will drink at least 2 litres of water. I am going to telephone my Mum, my son and 3 sisters to see how they all are and tell them I love them. For my soul, I will listen to music which reaches my soul - especially Eva Cassidy's "Imagine" and "Danny Boy".

 

This is all great people. Keep it up!

[MMT]

I am in. I have a suggestion. This thread really helped me ofter my break up.

 

Writing the number of the day and the short reprt of what I did and what I felt and also to see the other people doing that and sometimes comunicate them really helped me in that way. We can do that here as well. 30 days mind, body and soul improvemnt report.

 

Day 1 for me starts from tomorrow.

 

: )

[Silverbirch]

Good Idea MMT. Well, it's early on Day 2 here for me. I'm feeling optimistic about achieving small things, but I can't see myself doing anything really drastic right now. Am feeling okay.

[quirky]

I also listen to another podcast , Forgive to Win. It is 29 sessions by psychiatrist and is designed to teach you to stop self sabotaging yourself.

 

I just subscribed to that, thanks! The guy looks a bit unusual, I like that.

 

I wanted to say well done to everyone. I have been on this path for a few months and I am now doing the opposite, leaving challenges to the side a little bit so I can digest what I have learnt. Only a little bit, my studies revolve around personal development anyway 8)

[pippy longstocking]

Unfortunately, I was adopted out of the country.

 

The only information available was background as far as nationality, age, and that bio parents grandparents "died of natural causes."

 

Since, apparently, that covers everything up to terrorist bombing, it's just not that helpful. Add that 40+ years ago so much less was known about varying conditions and it's kind of scary.

 

This is the first doctor I've had that was proactive about any of it. He's very blunt - but very "into" prevention being better than a cure whenever possible. And his basic stance was to assume the worst as far as genetic weaknesses - and act accordingly to try and balance it out.

 

It's nice to know I have company in this boat, though!

 

Side note: today was first day at health club. So humbled. But crawled away with more determination to get in better shape.

 

yes here in the uk the law re adoption changed in 77 ...so my records etc where very hard to get hold of , and they hold little information really . It is those questions through life that always get you , "does this run in the family , does that run in the family" and we just can't answer them can we ! So your consultant has been amazing really to be prepared to act now , that is fabulous .

 

I did find my birth mother and father and it was a train wreck . After something like 12 years my birth father became quite " odd" . When I became pregnant with my daughter I asked him if he wanted to be grandad and his wife (not my birth mother) grandma , or just be known by their names or what !!!! I said just because I can't call you dad I wouldnt deprive you of a grandchild ....when ems was 6 he told me him and his wife have changed their minds about been grandparents !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! changed their effing minds mes I ask you !! and would I mind telling emily to call them by their real names now ...

 

honest to god .....I told him in no uncertain terms to get the f out of my house and I have never ever contacted him since . Around this time a geneologist found my birth mother ..we had two conversations and it was pure hell the second time ..she is barking mad and cruel . The doc thinks the mental health comes from her , just from what I know and what I told them and as you know bipolar etc is in the blood as well.

 

It did bother me .. because they rejected me twice each .

 

sorry to hijack thread silver my darling .

[Seraphim]

I just subscribed to that, thanks! The guy looks a bit unusual, I like that.

 

I wanted to say well done to everyone. I have been on this path for a few months and I am now doing the opposite, leaving challenges to the side a little bit so I can digest what I have learnt. Only a little bit, my studies revolve around personal development anyway 8)

I really like what he has to say. If you go to his website you can download his E book for free.

[Seraphim]

My husband and I went for a walk tonight and walked hand in hand. Often on these walks we talk about things we could never talk about in our youth without getting deeply offended. Now we can talk in an honest and very forthright way and no one is offended. It really gets those frustrations and resentments of the past out. And you can do so in a safe and understanding manner.

 

We also tend to joke with each other, really bizarre stuff that no one else would think was a joke but you would have to know us.

 

And we also talk about future plans.

[itsallgrand]

Hmm, I think I will check out that podcast tonight.

 

Today I fed my body some good food, and drank only one normal person sized cup of coffee. Drank lots of water. Dropped by the Yoga Studio I pass pretty near every day after work - to check out a drop in class. My muscles are sore and I think I will drop in later this week for a class.

 

Tomorrow I want to drop in at the old book store I used to love going to. Haven't been there in ages. Miss the smell of the old books, the man who owns the place and all his stories of the different books and old publishing houses and the histories behind things he is so fascinated with.

 

Ohh, and there are so many suggestions on here which perked up my ears and can be drawn from. I think tonight I won't go through the entire closet - but I am going to hunt to see if I can find a nice dress in there somewhere. And if not; I am going to treat myself to one for the holiday season. Might feel good to put on a proper dress for once; one that I feel actually pretty in. With....red lipstick! I never wear red lipstick...but someone suggested it...so...why not?!

[Seraphim]

Red lipstick is my fav and signature colour!! And not orangey red but deep true blue red.

[itsallgrand]

Red lipstick is my fav and signature colour!! And not orangey red but deep true blue red.

 

So pretty! I love red lipstick - the right shade (and supposedly we all have a shade of red we can rock) on other women.

 

It may sound silly, but I have been always scared of it. Such a little thing. But it started with being told for so long that with my lips, I would like look a big mouth coming at you. It was so long ago someone said that; at this stage I can say it hurt my feelings. No matter how many times someone said a nice thing about my mouth (and I've had compliments), I didn't want to hear that ever again. "wow, you've got a big mouth!".

 

So I will find a shade of red that looks nice on me. And wear it. You heard it here.

[Seraphim]

So pretty! I love red lipstick - the right shade (and supposedly we all have a shade of red we can rock) on other women.

 

It may sound silly, but I have been always scared of it. Such a little thing. But it started with being told for so long that with my lips, I would like look a big mouth coming at you. It was so long ago someone said that; at this stage I can say it hurt my feelings. No matter how many times someone said a nice thing about my mouth (and I've had compliments), I didn't want to hear that ever again. "wow, you've got a big mouth!".

 

So I will find a shade of red that looks nice on me. And wear it. You heard it here.

 

I have a really full bottom lip. But I do have a big mouth too..........only a different way.............LOL. Since childhood people have told me I am super mouthy. I just never took anyone's crap lying down.

[Seraphim]

I think I was considered "mouthy" because I always felt kids had rights. However I was raised in a time where kids had very little right and you shut the heck up when an adult talked to you and you were never told of anything even close to a right. My mom always told me I had rights to things. Not many parents did that. They really really resented me and called me a smart ass and "bad influence" for their kids.

[itsallgrand]

^ thanks for being awesome.

 

I've got the big mouth both ways. My mom even told me recently that sometimes she forgot how sensitive I can be because of how opinionated and vocal I've always been. But yeah...

 

I love that you wear the red proudly. More inspiration.

[Mesemene]

((so sorry the contact with your biological parents was so negative and cruel Star.... I suppose the silver lining might be maybe it's a good thing you didn't have them to grow up with, so it's a choice you can make to have them out of your (and your children's) lives? Their loss, you're worth more

 

I haven't worn any makeup in... oh lord, yes, I have to reach that far back. Probably since I was working professionally. So several years since I inherited the madhouse.

 

And I think, next payday, I'm going to get the haircolor I've been putting off, and get some daggone makeup again. I deserve to feel pretty! I've never worn a lot of heavy makeup, but I do like to "bring out" my eyes, which are a relatively unusual mossy green with brown inside and grey circling.

 

I can't really go through clothes myself - most are in storage since we moved in here, but but but... I promised myself, come January, if I've lost enough to be at least a size down, to get myself a couple of decent outfits. So I have that to look forward to.

[Seraphim]

I have green eyes too! But they are more brilliant green.

[Seraphim]

^ thanks for being awesome.

 

I've got the big mouth both ways. My mom even told me recently that sometimes she forgot how sensitive I can be because of how opinionated and vocal I've always been. But yeah...

 

I love that you wear the red proudly. More inspiration.

 

Awww thanks!

[mhowe]

Lots of green eyed ladies (me too)!

 

Endeavoring to highlight hair and lose .75% body fat.

3 eight training and 4 cardios a week.

Organize office so am ready for new year.

Empty/organize closet.

Live in the magic of the.present with bf!!

[lerenard]

I am very tired today, but I need to push myself into a shower, and then stretch for good half an hour at least, before falling in to my bed, face down.

 

I am glad I quit smoking this year, and I will enter 2014 as a non-smoker.

[Realitynut]

I laid in bed all morning and thought of the things i SHOULD be doing! Don't have any customers til tonite. Thought of this thread. I will go and make a list of things to DO...important things. Tom got on me last night about getting another lawyer. I will be divorced 6 years in this spring. lol...i can't even remember the month! Anyway, i was suppose to get some money from my ex....on a monthly basis. About $500. He then took me back to court, and they changed it to 21% of a retirement pay he was getting...so i would get about $230 a month. I have never got a penny. My lawyer was suppose to get paid by what i got from the ex! I think she gave up. She never returned my ph. calls. My last letter i sent her was in March 2011!! Only reason i know was i looked up all the paperwork last night....

 

Then Dan dumped me in April 2011 and you know my life went up in smoke for a year.

 

Now I'm ready to go after the money. Ex got married a year ago. Went to Jamaica. Drives a big fancy truck now. I think he can afford $230 a month.

 

Now to find another attorney. ugh.

 

This is going to be the last sorta warm day of the year. Freezing weather is coming. Gonna go for a walk with Tom this afternoon. Go back to the gym tonite. Haven't been there since spring.

 

Clean off my dining rm table.

 

Dec. 14 I'm hosting a 'spa' night with the 'women over 50' girls from my meetup. It's a night of facials and massage at my office....and food! Should be fun!

 

I'm going to host a 'movie' night next week for the meetup group too! The new Hunger Games movie.

 

Now to step away from this computer!

 

The only time i ever sparkled was when i was in love.

 

It's dreary out today....winter is coming...I'm kinda bummed and layed in bed....waaaay to long. I NEED A BOOST OF ENERGY!!!!!!

[zentoCC]

Realitynut I've seen e new Hunger Games movie it's really good! But very long.

 

Today I went out with my best friends I don't get to see them to often so it was great. We ate loads, I probably spent about £30 on various food stuff. I also replace my lost glass nail file and bought a Buddha head (I have a collection of Buddhas).

 

I saw the Tibetan prayers bowls you were talking about before I was tempted to buy one since I want to start meditating but the expense put me off since I don't have to much money this month. Maybe something to spend my Christmas money on!

[Silverbirch]

MHowe, you must be very fit and slim already as that is a very small amount to lose.

 

Well, not sure if I made my target in the water department, but I drank a lot more than I usually do. I rang all of my family though and that was great. That really made me feel good on the inside.

 

LOL, thought I would share this - I've been thinking about different small things I could read or study to expand my mind. For some reason when I was at work, I thought of it. I have a colleague who is Vietnamese born, was sponsored to come here a bit over 10 years ago and didn't speak a word of English. He had been a maths teacher in Vietnam and is an intelligent person. Anyway, I was just thinking about Shakespeare, and I asked him if he had studied Shakespeare in Vietnam. He told me he studied "Hamlet" in highschool. The thought of Shakespeare, especially Hamlet performed in Vietanames was quite hilarious to me though I didn't say so to him. He was also with me at the ballet on Saturday and loved it.

 

Last night, I bought a pooket puzzle book from the supermarket - I have always loved doing cryptic crosswords. I did fall asleep though before I got to do any and had a long sleep-in as I'm not working today. I have had some muscular discomfort at the top of my back, and I think I really needed that sleep.

 

I'm planning on a long trip into the city today. I had bought an E cigarette starter kit which was working well for me, but I broke the charger so haven't been able to use it. Getting off cigarettes would be the best thing I could do for my health - and the price has gone u here again. Truly, Americans and Europeans are shocked when they hear about the price of cigarettes here and how difficult it is (and getting harder) for smokers because of so many restrictions of where people can smoke. It is a type of social leprosy in a lot of circles.

 

Tonight I will do a guided meditation, I will take my dog for a long walk in the afternoon and I will eat healthy food today. For my mind, I will do some puzzles.

[mhowe]

SB....that is my 30 day target! gained weight during last year post mum and stopping the cigs!!

Need to drop 3% overall...and last month was .5% so I raised the bar higher for this month!