nicequietguy Posted November 20, 2013 Author Share Posted November 20, 2013 You can close this thread it wont change anything but reaffirm your own sense of self righteousness and further entrench my own views. I can't and won't change it's the world which has to change. At least we can both say we were right. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 You can close this thread it wont change anything but reaffirm your own sense of self righteousness and further entrench my own views. I can't and won't change it's the world which has to change. At least we can both say we were right. Well dear I personally can not close anything. But the mods can. I don't have any self-righteousness only happiness. And if you crawled out of the hole you've crawled into and made yourself a prisoner in a little box you could be happy too. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 You can close this thread it wont change anything but reaffirm your own sense of self righteousness and further entrench my own views. I can't and won't change it's the world which has to change. At least we can both say we were right. Well, since you clearly do not want help there is no point to the thread. Link to comment
mhowe Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I just asked my husband if he " settled" for me. LOL Is he still laughing??!! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Is he still laughing??!! He did actually laugh, lol. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Is he still laughing??!! All the married men I know who are happy in their marriages swear up and down their wives are the ones who settled. I find that interesting. Link to comment
nicequietguy Posted November 20, 2013 Author Share Posted November 20, 2013 Please don't use the word "you." You have no idea what *I* do or don't do. Like I said, I don't go into things looking to "fix" anyone or anything. You never answered the question: how's the rest of your life going as a humble, passive, etc. guy? How's your career? Your social life? Does your refusal to change impact all parts of your life? Being passive and humble impacts me in the sense that it socially isolates me from the majority of people especially those my own age (no real loss) except for other passive and humble males like myself (and it's always males). I get on with the very elderly as well. If being polite and passive excludes me from what others have taken for granted then so be it. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 All the married men I know who are happy in their marriages swear up and down their wives are the ones who settled. I find that interesting. My husband says that too. He said he got the best woman in the world bar none. And he truly means it. The day he asked me to marry him 24 years ago he had tears in his eyes and said I was the best thing that ever happened to his life. And he still tells me that to is this very day. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 My husband says that too. He said he got the best woman in the world bar none. And he truly means it. The day he asked me to marry him 24 years ago he had tears in his eyes and said I was the best thing that ever happened to his life. And he still tells me that too is this very day. fab fab fab fab fab fab fab Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Being passive and humble impacts me in the sense that it socially isolates me from the majority of people especially those my own age (no real loss) except for other passive and humble males like myself (and it's always males). I get on with the very elderly as well. If being polite and passive excludes me from what others have taken for granted then so be it. A lot of us get along with the elderly. I worked in an old age home for 10 years. Link to comment
nicequietguy Posted November 20, 2013 Author Share Posted November 20, 2013 A lot of us get along with the elderly. I worked in an old age home for 10 years. I talk to the elderly as equals or betters and unpatronisingly as well (yes I've seen these care homes) they know more than we'll ever know. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I talk to them as equals and unpatronisingly (yes I've seen these care homes) they know more than we'll ever know. that is a lovely thing for me to hear right now op ....I thank you for that ..my darling mum is in a nursing home and I am 200 miles away , so to know that there are people like you and vic warms me . Link to comment
mhowe Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 They have a lot of social functions and are lonely. And I am sure they would appreciate a polite and quiet young man...and they have old world values and expectations too. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 I talk to the elderly as equals and unpatronisingly (yes I've seen these care homes) they know more than we'll ever know. Really???? I didn't know that! Wow! See that is something that you could use in common with someone! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 That is the first glimmer we have seen out of you other than you're nice. Now we have a nugget to start a conversation with. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 That is the first glimmer we have seen out of you other than you're nice. Now we have a nugget to start a conversation with. and what a GEM ..I am in tears here thinking about some kind polite man taking the time to speak to my mum Link to comment
Moontiger Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 and what a GEM ..I am in tears here thinking about some kind polite man taking the time to speak to my mum Well hot nugget. It was like pulling teeth but we have something here! the I women I know who would be impressed by this... Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 and what a GEM ..I am in tears here thinking about some kind polite man taking the time to speak to my mum Exactly and that is worth talking about. That is what I was saying about trying to find something to have a conversation about. And that is something worth the conversation and I'm sure a lot of people would have that in common. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Well hot nugget. It was like pulling teeth but we have something here! the I women I know who would be impressed by this... Exactly it is better then I am better than you because I'm a man and stuff you, your a woman and a biatch. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Well hot nugget. It was like pulling teeth but we have something here! the I women I know who would be impressed by this... yeah , that one paragraph made a difference to my life ...and that tells me the op has a lot in there ..a lot of love and patience Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2013 Share Posted November 20, 2013 Exactly and that is worth talking about. That is what I was saying about trying to find something to have a conversation about. And that is something worth the conversation and I'm sure a lot of people would have that in common. oh hell yeah ...we can all relate in some way Link to comment
Moontiger Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 I am NOT saying this to be negative but to give one last shot at helping the OP. OP, it took 14 pages of your anger to get to something that has impressed the women on this thread (of different ages, countries, backgrounds). If it took this much time in real life for a woman to get to know just one GREAT thing about you, she is probably not going to stick around to hear it. By the proverbial page 5 of the discussion (or lack of one) she is going to assume you are not interested because that is the impression that she will get. Link to comment
nicequietguy Posted November 21, 2013 Author Share Posted November 21, 2013 I'm not looking to ingratiate myself here it doesn't change my views at all and I'm finding this sudden about turn disquieting but then sincerity usually can be which is no doubt why you were all taken aback by my views. I don't know how to interact with you people on these terms and find it much easier re-stating my initial viewpoint again and surely it's easier for you all to accept me within those boundaries as well (even if you've caricatured me) which you were doing before without any question? Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Treating the elderly with respect is just a given and shouldn't be considered a personality trait that makes one attractive. It implies there is another acceptable way to treat the elderly, which there is not. This isn't going to make a quiet guy have better luck with women, nor should it. I'd beware of any woman willing to date or even associate with any guy who doesn't respect the elderly. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 I'm not looking to ingratiate myself here it doesn't change my views at all and I'm finding this sudden about turn disquieting but then sincerity usually can be which is no doubt why you were all taken aback by my views. I don't know how to interact with you people on these terms and find it much easier re-stating my initial viewpoint again and surely it's easier for you all to accept me within those boundaries as well (even if you've caricatured me) which you were doing before without any question? oh bollox mate anyone want a cuppa , I am done Link to comment
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