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Fear of not finding love? Tell the Universe what you're looking for...


Iwouldbetheone

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I don't know if I'm the only one on here who fears ending up alone. Sometimes I feel like I'm slightly unlucky in the romance department, but I am also thankful for the relationships I have had, I've learned a lot. That said, I would really like to meet my life partner very soon; I'm ready.

 

People tell me I should place an order with the Universe. Tell the Universe what it is you want. They say that the more you know about what you want, the closer you are to getting it. To me it's more important to determine how I want to FEEL in a relationship as opposed to making a grocery list of characteristics I want (i.e. smart, good-looking, likes to travel, etc.)

 

So here's the "order" I'm placing with the Universe with the hope that the Universe is listening and will deliver soon:

 

I want to be in a mutually in-love, happy, healthy, passionate, monogamous, committed lifetime partnership with the man of my life.

I want to feel at home with this person.

I want to feel free with this person.

I want to feel like I can be completely myself with this person.

I want to feel completely loved, desired, understood, valued, appreciated, supported, cherished and respected by this person.

I want to feel like I'm with my best friend and lover.

I want to feel like I can talk to this person about anything and not feel judged.

I want to feel like this person will always be there for me no matter what.

I want to share the same values and life objectives with this person.

I want these feelings and attraction to be mutual.

 

There. That's my order. What's yours?

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Ha, I made my "To the Universe" man list about 3 years ago...I'm going to go see if I can find it.

 

I have a different list...of qualities I'm looking for in my future husband. I keep it on me and review it often so I don't lose sight of who he is.

 

Must be kind

Must get each others humour

Must be intelligent

Must be responsible (financially, personally and to the community)

Must be a strong role model and kind to my daughter

Must have a strong moral compass with similar values to me

Must be great in bed

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Ha! That's great shooting star. So great, in fact, that I'll modify my original post to integrate some feedback from the link you posted (that is, Say, “I’ll have the …” Then expect to receive what you order.). So I should use I will instead of I want.

 

I will be in a mutually in-love, happy, healthy, passionate, monogamous, committed lifetime partnership with the man of my life.

I will feel at home with this person.

I will feel free with this person.

I will feel like I can be completely myself with this person.

I will feel completely loved, desired, understood, valued, appreciated, supported, cherished and respected by this person.

I will feel like I'm with my best friend and lover.

I will feel like I can talk to this person about anything and not feel judged.

I will feel like this person will always be there for me no matter what.

I will share the same values and life objectives with this person.

These feelings and attraction will be mutual.

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Iwouldbetheone - you sound like "the one" to me

 

Thanks for the very refreshing reminder.

 

I will find the same things in a woman some day soon as well. I know it. I'm putting the energy out there and some beautiful soul will enter my life as an equal, at just the right time (whenever the universe decides that will be).

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i concur that words are very important. on that note, i would change some of these...

 

for example:

 

I will be at home with this person.

I will be free with this person.

I will be completely myself with this person.

I will be completely loved, desired, understood, valued, appreciated, supported, cherished and respected by this person.

I will be with my best friend and lover.

I will be able to talk to this person about anything and not feel judged.

I will know this person will always be there for me no matter what.

 

 

because, from my experiences, they way i feel about someone doesn't necessarily correlate to the reality of the way they feel about me. this is who you want to be, not how you want to feel. hope that makes sense.

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I like this idea, too. Thanks for the link, shooting star. After thinking on this, I had almost an epiphany about my ex. I have always felt very connected to the world, very in tune, a few times I did actually "will" some thing to happen.

 

You just have to believe it.

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i concur that words are very important. on that note, i would change some of these...

 

for example:

 

I will be at home with this person.

I will be free with this person.

I will be completely myself with this person.

I will be completely loved, desired, understood, valued, appreciated, supported, cherished and respected by this person.

I will be with my best friend and lover.

I will be able to talk to this person about anything and not feel judged.

I will know this person will always be there for me no matter what.

 

 

because, from my experiences, they way i feel about someone doesn't necessarily correlate to the reality of the way they feel about me. this is who you want to be, not how you want to feel. hope that makes sense.

 

My order is even better now, solamente. Totally agree with your explanation. Thank you!

 

Also thanks to all of you for your positive, uplifting posts! Am definitely interested in hearing what your orders would be, if you don't already have what you ordered!

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Great thread! My order:

-I will know we are best friends

-we will trust and respect each other

-we will make each other laugh

-he will love me and my daughter

-he will be tall and 'sturdy'

-he will be intelligent and have a job that he loves

-he will be financially similar to me

-we will have great sex in a monogamous relationship with each other

-he will love nearby

-his family will love me and my daughter

-I will meet him within the next 2 years

-I will feel like my wish has come true!!

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Great thread! My order:

-I know we are best friends

-we trust and respect each other

-we make each other laugh

-he loves me and my daughter

-he is tall and 'sturdy'

-he is intelligent and has a job that he loves

-he is financially similar to me

-we have great sex in a monogamous relationship with each other

-he lives nearby

-his family loves me and my daughter

 

Edited to make it the present tense. I heard it has to be 'as if its real and already happening'. Just incase....

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Thanks so much for your input, savignon! I'm incorporating your feedback as well. Totally true about the present tense:

 

I am in a mutually in-love, happy, healthy, passionate, monogamous, committed lifetime partnership with the man of my life.

I am at home with him.

I am free with him.

I am completely myself with him.

I am completely loved, desired, understood, valued, appreciated, supported, cherished and respected by him.

I am with my best friend and lover.

I can talk to him about anything and am not judged.

He will always be there for me no matter what.

He and I share the same values and life objectives.

The feelings and attraction between me and him are mutual.

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I will try this lol

Here is my order

I want a man that loves me and wont look elsewhere

I want him to be funny

I want him to love my kids

I want him to want to be with me not his job I get men work but he needs to make time for us

I want him to be trusting and honest

And not try to change me

Most of all I want him to be my best friend

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My turn

 

I am with a man who loves me deeply and I feel the same for him

We respect each other

We trust each other

We communicate honestly and effectively

We accept each other warts and all

We take care of each other's needs without smothering or imposing on each other

We share a sense of humor

We share common goals and the vision of a common future that is what we both want

We are fully commited to each other

We make a great team both in leisure and in real life!

We make each other happy!

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  • 2 weeks later...

I'm all for positive wistful thinking.

 

She is my kind of old fashioned.

She shares my situational humor.

She is the woman that will encourage me to be the Best Coily and I am helping her be the best Mrs. Coily.

She knows that while I am not the best in putting emotions into words, how dearly I love her.

She is ready to start a family, but would rather spend a few years just the two of us.

She is the last woman I'll ever want to look at, and knows how well we work in the bedroom.

She and I share one of the most loving, caring, and amazing relationships that is the envy of our friends; and one that weathers storms by bringing us closer.

We have interests out side of the relationship, that we support and encourage.

We can spend hours together saying nothing and feel even more connected.

She knows that nagging me is the worst possible thing in the world.

 

Soo much more I could throw in, but I don't want to overload the system..

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