anonymousgirl1 Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 My boyfriend of over six months recently asked me how I would feel if him and his ex-girlfriend tried being friends again. Their relationship, an on and off troubled one for two years, has always caused intense jealousy in me. I told him that I would be very uncomfortable with it, but soon afterwards said that I wanted him to do it, if it would make him happy. I know this is the attitude I should take; I don't want to accidentally drive him back towards his ex by protesting too much and alienating him, but I am far too jealous to be able to deal with this constructively as is. I need tips, advice, anything, please. I am mainly worried because I feel like he's been initiating this with her and I don't know why. He is still extremely resentful towards her for some things, he broke up with her seven months ago after he cheated, they haven't been very good friends since they broke up at all, just having the occasional phone call. I don't understand why he called her a few days ago and I don't know who brought up the idea and the whole thing makes me queasy. I trust him, and love him very much, and he's told me, honestly, that there is no way that he's ever getting back together with her. He's told me more than once that he loves me more than he ever loved her. At the same time that I know all this, I feel uneasy with the fact that she is single, and hasn't had a serious boyfriend since they broke up. I'm worried that if they start being friends again, talking or even hanging out alone (I don't even want to think about it...I don't understand why I'm so jealous) that they'll reminisce about past experiences, the good times, and fall in love again. I know this is irrational...but I need help overcoming these feelings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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