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I can relate, I think. My boyfriend prefers skinny girls, and although I'm pretty thin myself I do get self-conscious when I see girls who are thinner than me and find myself comparing my body to actresses he likes. But he always telling me how attracted he is to me and has never made me think he would be unfaithful because of it, so I try to ignore the negative thoughts. I think a lot of it is you putting your own insecurities in the situation. If he says and shows you he loves you, try to get rid of those thoughts because I think many guys love the boobs that are attached to the girl they love.

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I'm generally slim, but breastwise I'm AA; just seem to have got smaller in that area as I got older. I've never known a guy to be bothered by it. Ever. In fact I've got the impression that men are interested in and fascinated by boobs of all sizes and I can't believe yours are any less attractive than anyone else's.

 

For yourself, I agree with the others that it's a blessing. You don't sag, you can lie down comfortably in bed, you don't have the thing of 'one going one way, the other going the other' when you lie on your back, and you can go on a bumpy ride without it hurting.

 

Though I can understand the fascination with large breasts. A friend of mine (same size as me-ish) was once doing some laundry for her flatmate and his girlfriend. She remarked that the girlfriend had a 38D bra, and my first question was whether she'd tried it on. Suitably stuffed with socks, of course.

 

She hadn't. But she had thought about it.

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Bah, it all comes down to not letting what someone else does influence how you feel about yourself. Even if he preferred larger breasts; would that make you any less beautiful or your breasts any less great? Hell no.

 

I find it more than a little annoying when posters here are saying "well think, they won't sag, they won't do this, they won't do that" etc. Well first off, that isn't even true. Small or large, breasts can sag or not and do all kinds of things. And second off; I don't believe in knocking down someone else's assets to try and build up your own. When I enjoy my little bottom, I don't think "well hey, at least it doesn't get jammed in plane toilet doors because it's so big". Get what I am saying?

 

We all offer something different. Me; I'm a petite woman with large breasts and small hips and butt. I've dated more than one man who was all "booty is fabulous". Huh, well I've only got a little one. I suppose somewhere along the line I got really confident about my body because, I never took this to heart. I actually remember thinking something along the line of "well that is all well and good that you are so into that. But that's not me. I've got a little booty, and a rocking body.". Maybe sounds arrogant. The point is: it's not about you. You, and you alone, decide how you feel about your body.

 

And if a man starts to make you feel like you aren't enough, even though you have a solid sense of your body, then maybe that guy isn't right for you. Cause the fact is, we can't all have the same tastes. Some guys are going to appreciate different parts of you differently. One guy might be driven insane by your eyes, another by your legs - even if you never thought your legs were all that.

 

My motto is: take in the good, dismiss the bad. lol. Hey, it works.

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It is completely normal for guys to look at photos of women or watch porn, and yes, often times those women do not look like you do. But to be realistic about it, have you ever watched porn? 98% of the women in porn have unrealistically large breasts in comparison to there body size, just like the guys all have HUGE penises, and all the women are bone skinny, many are blonds, many are there to serve and not get anything in return, it is completely unrealistic. When you see a women in porn go down on a guy, she spends minutes on it, and it shows ton of detail, but when a guy goes down on a women in porn, he spends 30 seconds on her. I stopped watching straight porn because it was always focused on the women giving to the man, and the women with her huge boobs walking around (probably breaking her back with 'em), and the women's face; on the flip side, you rarely see the man's face, the detail on his penis, etc. Point being from my little rant, if your boyfriend is pulling photos from porn, those photos are going to show women with huge breasts most of the time. Pick up a playboy if you don't believe me.

 

I may not print out photos of penises or anything, but I have my sights and "stashes" just like guys do. It is normal, and even if I'm in a relationship, I may occasionally look up a quick porn vid to get myself off to. The fact is that he is still going home to you, so he loves your body, too.

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ive dated girls with different sizes, the first girl i dated went from D to DD while we dated on her own (HS), then the next one was a C, the then I dated one with an A, and another with a B, now the current girlfriend i have has C cup.

 

To me i'll still look at porn with girls who have a variety of sizes for boobs, but to me its just entertainment, because i'll never leave my g/f to go date someone who had larger or smaller boobs, because to me there is more to a girl then her bra size.

 

I think this just about sums it up.

I'm sure if you look at his body, you could prob change a thing or two. He's not Ryan Renolds, amirite? Doesn't mean you'll leave him either. You love him for him, not just his body but I'm sure that's part of the package. You have a relationship together, you have a bond, you share laughs, you love him.

 

People are more than their body parts.

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A persons personality does not reside in their boobs or their penis or what have you.

Many people look at themselves and see these areas as a deficiency which somehow requires enhancement to make them a better person if they are lacking.

 

If the man or woman is with you and loves who you are, they are not going to give a damn about bust or girth.

 

In the case of a woman, most men will have checked out their bust size when they first meet them anyway.

If the man decides to make advancements anyway and chooses to stay with that woman long term, bust size is highly unlikely to be an issue.

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If he doesn't find you attractive he won't have being with you for the past three years. Nobody is complete in the real sense of the word. Those with big boobs may not have some of the things he likes in you. My dear stay with your man and don't disturb yourself with what's outside.

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  • 1 year later...

if the guy loves the rest of you the breasts won't matter... my GF in college was an A cup and she had everything else going for her (including a nice bum!) so don't worry about it... boobs are boobs - after all they are just things of flesh some people have and some people dont... those that don't won't have saggy parts later in life be happy with who you are!

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Wow, talk about reviving an old thread...

 

I think women VASTLY overrate how much weight guys put on a woman's chest size. A guy would have to be the ultimate "boob man" to reject a great woman because her tatas weren't huge. Many of us just see boobs as a "nice to have," but definitely not a deal breaker.

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I'm remembering a guy I once knew who would often say: "Breasts (boobs)are for babies; legs are for men". lol

 

Oh boy yes. One of the reasons that I don't understand some people saying that tall girls are less attractive... or whatever it is they say. Like short men?

 

My gf is 5'11" and my god has she got amazing legs.

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I'm remembering a guy I once knew who would often say: "Breasts (boobs)are for babies; legs are for men". lol

 

Legs indeed. I go crazier when I see a girl in short shorts than I do for anything else almost.

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My friends all had larger breasts then mine and during my dating years I considered a boob job but never did it.

 

Fast forward several years later my large breasted friends moan over and struggle with their sagging boobies and I still have firm little baseballs and now they are envious of me.

 

I wish I hadn't wasted all that time having breast envy when I was younger. . So silly now when I think back on it.

And I don't think any man I ever dated minded one bit either. .

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If you had really, really big boobs, he would be looking at women with small ones. Men visually look at variety. But they don't remember what they looked at a few minutes later, sometimes. So don't get a boob job. Your bf loves who you are and so should you.

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Men love boobs. The sooner you accept it, the better off you'll be. Just because he likes to look at big ones doesn't mean anything's wrong with yours. No need to be jealous. Admit it, you find other guys attractive, maybe even more so than your boyfriend (don't lie, it's true. We all know he's not the perfect male specimen). Does he get upset about it? The bottom line is there will always be more attractive, better endowed people out there. That doesn't mean he'll leave you because you aren't busty. It doesn't mean you'll leave him for a larger man. It's just reality.

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