Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me!

[Tom_Bombadil]

I didn't know where to start this thread, so I apologize to the mods if this place is innapropriate.

 

I see alot of guys here who get down over the fact that they are virgins, or haven't had much sexual experience. We've all gotten that feeling at one time or another.

 

I found this flash cartoon this morning, and its kinda cute. Check it out. It might make you smile!

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[lillady898]

I think it's so weird how guys can get so down on theirselves because they're virgins. My boyfriend is a virgin, and he is the most attractive person I have ever seen. I'm actually proud of him for waiting for the perfect girl. (And that's not only because he says I am the perfect girl... ) I think guys should get it out of their head that it's bad for them being a virgin and all that. They should be proud!

[Tom_Bombadil]

I think it's so weird how guys can get so down on theirselves because they're virgins. My boyfriend is a virgin, and he is the most attractive person I have ever seen. I'm actually proud of him for waiting for the perfect girl. (And that's not only because he says I am the perfect girl... ) I think guys should get it out of their head that it's bad for them being a virgin and all that. They should be proud!

 

I agree. I have a friend who is 25 and still a virgin. He doesn't seem too bent out of shape over it though. Its mostly a feeling that we get during middle and high school years. Many adolescent males often B.S. one another over how many sexual conquests they have had. They often like to poke fun at those who admit they've never had sex.

[Pyralis]

I think it's so weird how guys can get so down on theirselves because they're virgins. My boyfriend is a virgin, and he is the most attractive person I have ever seen. I'm actually proud of him for waiting for the perfect girl. (And that's not only because he says I am the perfect girl... ) I think guys should get it out of their head that it's bad for them being a virgin and all that. They should be proud!

 

I know what you mean, lillady, but it is society that makes us virgin guys feel as if there is something wrong with us. I'm 23 years old and I'm still a virgin. I know that I shouldn't get myself upset about it and I know that I'm doing the right thing by waiting for someone special. But it's the constant bombardment of sexual content from the media, and even from friends and acquaintances that make me feel as if I'm the only person on this planet that no one wants to be intimate with. At times it makes me feel that there must be something seriously wrong with me. I know it's all in my head, but sometimes the feelings are so intense that I cannot help it. For example, I know for a fact that I'm the only person at my workplace that is still a virgin. Even the people 4 or 5 years younger than me have more sexual experience than I can wrap my mind around. They all talk about their past sexual experiences and about sexual topics so casually, like it's just another part of life, and it drives me insane. It only serves as a reminder of how truly pathetic I am when it comes to intimate relationships. Like I said, I know it's all in my mind, but it makes me feel as if I'm somehow defective as a human being.

[Mun]

I just want to say a few things you guys.

 

Pyralis, your post kinda got to me---in a good way.

 

Look if someone is making you feel less because you are a virgin it's their problem and they have serious issues. Chosing not to have sex is a personal choice and I commend you guys for making that decision. For the ones that have no choice in the matter, you will get yours in due time--believe me .

 

Sex should be special between two people who care about each other, unfortunately it has become something very commercial ( because sex sells) and has lost alot of it's "magic."

 

You guys are great and I hope you remember this:

Having sex is EASY.. it's choosing not to have sex (for the sake of having sex) that shows your strength of character.

[iceesnowbubble]

I love when i meet a guy who is still a virgin. Especially if that guy is attractive. It takes a severe amount of will power to keep from having sex, and it just shows a lot of good character if you can hold off for the perfect girl. I don't necessarily agree with waiting until marriage..not that you asked that, but there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Sex is special, and it should be saved for a special person.

[Pyralis]

I love when i meet a guy who is still a virgin. Especially if that guy is attractive. It takes a severe amount of will power to keep from having sex, and it just shows a lot of good character if you can hold off for the perfect girl. I don't necessarily agree with waiting until marriage..not that you asked that, but there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Sex is special, and it should be saved for a special person.

 

It's nice to know that there are some women out there that like to meet virgin men. I think I tend to get really down about being a virgin because I just can't see myself as being attractive to women. Growing up through high school and university I never received any compliments about my looks, or about me as a person in general from girls. I guess without that kind of support I've grown to doubt my ability to attract females.

 

One of my co-worker's friends came through my shop one day as a customer and the next day my co-worker said that her friend thought I was cute. My first reaction was to dismiss it. I figured to myself that since no girl has ever expressed any sort of interest in me or even just given me a simple complement, what are the chances of her actually liking me? Especially since we never really talked. (All I did was cash out her invoice.) I figured that the comment was most likely made in a joking or sarcastic manner. It seemed like just one small anomaly in a long history of disinterested girls.

 

I don't plan on waiting for marriage. I'm just waiting for that special someone to enter my life. Someone I can really feel close to and comfortable enough with to allow for such an intimate expression of our love to take place. Unfortunately that hasn't happened yet, and I'm just not sure it ever will. I thought it happened at one time, but it ended before we had a chance to meet in person. (Met on the Internet.) I know that I'm probably being too hard on myself, but that's how I really feel sometimes.

 

Sorry If I've strayed off of topic. I just wanted to get that off of my chest.

 

We now return you to your previously scheduled thread, already in progress…

[Tom_Bombadil]

I'm sorry that this thread got you down.

 

I just wanted to share that link with you guys and hoped it would make someone smile. I really didn't mean for it to get anyone depressed...

[Pyralis]

I'm sorry that this thread got you down.

 

I just wanted to share that link with you guys and hoped it would make someone smile. I really didn't mean for it to get anyone depressed...

 

Don't worry, Tom. Your thread didn't get me depressed, this has been bothering me for quite a while and this thread was an opportunity to get a few things off of my chest and out into the open. In fact, I feel a little bit better now that I've talked about it.

 

That animation did put a smile on my face and now it has a home on my HD. Thanks for sharing the link.

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

It is depressing being a virgin by force and not by choice. It's worse the older you are because you are stuck in the mind set that no one will ever love in that way. I go through this everyday of my life, not just the sex but the overall experience of not being loved by a woman. I just can't see a woman who would find me attractive enough to experience love making with me. They say nice things like I'm a nice guy, sweet guy, funny guy and that I'll find someone eventually, but I feel like I'm being passed around like a hot potato. I know women see me and know they can do better. Consider yourself lucky Pyralis because you're not even 25 yet. You're too young to give up, it will happen for you!

[Pyralis]

It is depressing being a virgin by force and not by choice. It's worse the older you are because you are stuck in the mind set that no one will ever love in that way. I go through this everyday of my life, not just the sex but the overall experience of not being loved by a woman. I just can't see a woman who would find me attractive enough to experience love making with me. They say nice things like I'm a nice guy, sweet guy, funny guy and that I'll find someone eventually, but I feel like I'm being passed around like a hot potato. I know women see me and know they can do better. Consider yourself lucky Pyralis because you're not even 25 yet. You're too young to give up, it will happen for you!

 

You described my mindset perfectly. I know that I shouldn't give up and I know that there is a possibility of finding (or even just crossing paths with) someone in the future who will love me, but it is that very mindset that you described that makes the future seem so lonely for me. Every time I meet a woman I tend to think that she could do so much better than be with me. I have very low self-confidence and extremely low self-esteem. I see no value to myself. I think that there is nothing that I could possibly offer a woman in a relationship. Sometimes I even feel as if my life may have a negative value. That way when I'm gone, society will end up experiencing a net gain.

 

Anyways, I've only given up searching for someone. If I were to meet someone one day and fall in love then that's great. In fact that would be wonderful. But I'm not going to drive myself insane and advertise my desperation by trying to search high and low for someone. I might as well just hang a sign around my neck that reads "I'M DESPERATE. WANNA GO OUT WITH ME?" I figure that love is not something that can be forced. If it happens, it happens, if not, then it was never meant to.

[TheDrifter2k]

I'll try to paraphrase my previous post which was unfortunately deleted for having a curse in it that was merely quoted as part of the song lyric. Meh, that's how it goes.

 

Getting back to the video that started this topic itself...after finding this clip on ebaumsworld I looked up some more songs by TISM, and I fell in love with the band. I would recommend to anyone who found the video catchy at all to check out some more of their stuff.

 

About the video and the topics discussed, I think there is one big issue that people have missed. The bunny, our hero, has a big 1 on his chest. He's not a virgin! While I totally respect and welcome all the talk about virginism (I'm a 19 yr-old virgin myself) and the like on this forum and on this post, the point is moot with regard to the video itself.

 

Maybe since the band was Australian I had a hard time hearing the words when spoken, so I found the lyrics. When taken into consideration as a whole they're very interesting. I think it's best if everyone read and enjoy them on their own without me or anyone commenting on them one way or another beforehand. But keep in mind who's designed to be saying them, the bunny with the 1 on his chest! Not a zero!

 

Everyone else has had more sex than me

Does anyone else get that feeling?

Teenagers, naked, couple in threes;

Grandparents swing from the ceiling;

Corporate capers and office amour;

Shenanigans outdoor and in -

Resist, and then later you find out there's more

Regret in not doing the sin.

 

All loves have to die - of that there's no help;

My favourite way to end em'

Is the orb-weaver spider's, whose pedipalp

Enters the female pudendum,

Then dies on the spot, his corpse there still stuck,

Left for his rivals to curse it.

He would rather die than not get to f***:

Personally, I reckon it's worth it.

 

 

 

I admittedly had to look up pedipalp and pudendum...but after I did this the spider metaphor in the second half became incredibly real to me. Check it out.

[Pyralis]

Hey,

 

I noticed that about the video the first time I watched it too. That bunny does have a 1 on his chest. So of course that makes his very much repeated statement that everyone has had more sex than him false. What about us virgins?

 

Actually, I think that there may have been one virgin bunny in that entire video. The bunny in the mask playing the keyboard looks like he may have a big 0 on his chest. You can only see the top of the number, but it definitely looks like it could be a 0.

 

I think that's my favorite scene in the video. I think that I can identify with that masked bunny. He represents how society tries to make us feel about being virgins. He is ashamed of being a virgin. He probably has very low self-confidence and self-esteem. It would make sense that he would hide his identity by masking his face. He doesn't want anyone to know who he is and he doesn't want anyone that could recognize him to know that he's a virgin. Also he probably doesn't want to show his face because he thinks of himself as being unattractive. Being sexually deprived all your life as all of the other bunnies your age seem to effortlessly explore their sexuality with others could do that to a bunny. That's my interpretation of that scene anyway.

 

I know that I cannot say that everyone else has had more sex than me because there are a lot of other unfortunate people in this world besides me. I do know that I can say that no one else has had less sex than me with confidence. At least I'm pretty sure that it's not physically possible to have had sex a negative number of times. lol

 

Oh well, I still stand by my morals. I'm not going to compromise them just for the sake of experiencing sex. I want my first time to be special. I want it to mean something, even if I have to wait another 23 years.

[69_king]

One of my co-worker's friends came through my shop one day as a customer and the next day my co-worker said that her friend thought I was cute. My first reaction was to dismiss it. I figured to myself that since no girl has ever expressed any sort of interest in me or even just given me a simple complement, what are the chances of her actually liking me? Especially since we never really talked. (All I did was cash out her invoice.) I figured that the comment was most likely made in a joking or sarcastic manner. It seemed like just one small anomaly in a long history of disinterested girls.

 

No it probably wasn't a joke, like how do you think the subject came up?

Do you think your co-worker just out of the blue asked her friend what she thought of you, and she politely or sarcastically said you're cute? No. that is unlikely. It sounds like an actual compliment to me.

 

That bunny does have a 1 on his chest. So of course that makes his very much repeated statement that everyone has had more sex than him false

 

No its still true, even though he's had it once, every has still had it more, like some of those bunnies have had it over 2000 times !!!

 

I can admit that , technically, I am a virgin at 25 but its not so bad for me because I have been seriously intimate quite a few times just I've never had intercourse. Which is fine by me, I love doing all the other stuff and there's less worries.