OldGuy Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Todays round of "help an old guy understand the new rules". Can someone help me with why some couples don't marry? There is a thread here by a guy that had been with his girl for 13 years and now she wants to split. She says she still loves him but wants to just date to see if they are still "in-love". I want to ask him why he didn't marry her about ten years ago. There are lots of threads from people that have lived together for years, and even have kids that have never gotten married and never seem to intend to. Marriage binds families together, it ties families together in ways that nothing else does both legally and emotionally. It not only formalizes the bond of the couple, but also ties them to their children and to each other's parents. I am an atheist, so I don't experience the spiritual significance of marriage. Yet there is a difference in the bond between a couple that is married and a couple that is not that I always find very apparent. I don't think I am that old fashioned; I lived with my wife for two years before we got married. I had no problem when my daughter lived with her man before they were married. I find it unconscionable that in this day and age this country denies the benefits of marriage to gays and lesbians. But I know that I would not feel the same way about my son-in-law if they had just lived together all this time. I would be deeply concerned about the financial well being of my grandchildren. I would be very concerned about their choice to have her be a stay at home Mom and support the family on just his income. I would worry that if either of them became ill or died, how they would manage the next of kin issues. I know divorce happens all the time. But it's a lot easier to throw a long-term "live-in" relationship away on a whim that it is a marriage. Any comments would be welcome. Quote Link to comment
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