HeatherB Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 It's all in the easy smile, undivided attention, and constant good mood no matter what you throw at him. While you feel the guy is only doing it for you, it works really well. Once you observe him having the exact same effect on others, it diminishes a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
epsilon2x Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Once you observe him having the exact same effect on others, it diminishes a lot. That's actually funny that you said that because that happened with an ex of mine. She had this whole "we were meant to be together, we just randomly met a coffee shop and started talking" type thing going on. Once she realized I meet the majority of girls I go out with like that she said something like "it doesn't feel as special any more". Kinda felt bad for her at the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FYI Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I have it, I just don't like to use it. I don't like the attention it brings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetta Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My Grandpa was a charming man and handsome, but he was NOT a good husband or father. I tend to shy away from Charmers myself because of what I heard and know about Grandpa. I will say he was an okay Grandpa but he did call me stupid once and that ended my enthusiasm for Grandpa's house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generation Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 They understand how to MANIPULATE women. I actually think they know nothing about women and in fact hate them, which is why they don't treat them like people and instead like puzzles. I would say they are naturals at manipulation. You guys are right. They are naturals at manipulation. Not all of them are, but most. Though most PUAs are manipulative to begin with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterPo Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I have met a few as I have 4 sisters and each one brought home one from each age group. I found it interesting that most shied away from me, even to the point of fast talking to the door, sister in tow. I wouldn't say all were losers, some did well for themselves but for the most part they all lost that charm, probably life catching up. The one that fascinated me and I don't know if he/she (yes) could be categorized as "charmers" but they came into a room and with zero to minimal conversation made you almost come to attention. Very strong and capable people and it was a real treat to be around them. My imagination? Neh, I don't think so. There is a special type of guy - the charmer. That is, the guy who is not really talented or brilliant, sometimes may look like a loser. But he has one ability. He can attract any woman at any time. This type of guy can speak in a certain way and immediately make himself appealing to any woman. What do the ladies here think about these guys? Have you ever met any of these guys? I am fascinated by them. I wonder, how they do it, how they can just turn on the charm just like that. Have you been able to resist them? What do they have that others don't? It is not money or looks, it is just something else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avila Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Yup, it's absolutely a thing that guys who have lots of sisters have. Spot on. And yes, they are can be manipulative *grrr* emotionally manipulative too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorshammer Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I have been told i am like this, most of my ex's claim i was a charmer. What creates my charm (or delusion of charm, lol) is being very emotional and sensitive about the little and big things you talk about, being "deep" (different way of saying emotional or sensitive), but still keep a very high masculine state, and having huge huevos to tell her right in her face, "everything about you is beautiful, you are an a amazing person, i am happy to be here, right now, getting to know you". Is this manipulation, possibly... at one point it might have been me faking it, but its so embedded into how i attract women, that its become normal thats its just me. I never have ill intentions though, and i am not that social and i am very introverted, but i manage to pull something off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My Grandpa was a charming man and handsome, but he was NOT a good husband or father. I tend to shy away from Charmers myself because of what I heard and know about Grandpa. I will say he was an okay Grandpa but he did call me stupid once and that ended my enthusiasm for Grandpa's house. Yeah, charmer is just another way to say narcissist. And it's always like this where people who aren't really close think these people are wonderful, but family sees the real person. They don't have to impress their family any more because there's nothing left to gain / take from them. That charm isn't for you - it's for them - they need everyone to love them so they can love themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slimpee Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 Im sorry but I think it's crap to over-generalize charmers as manipulative and narcissistic. Sure, maybe some are but some guys just have a magnetic personality. They are happy with themselves and self-confident, they genuinely care about other people, and make others feel special. My grandpa is like this and while he is certainly not perfect, he has been a wonderful example for me. Don't hate on all charming guys just because you aren't... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorshammer Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 Im sorry but I think it's crap to over-generalize charmers as manipulative and narcissistic. Sure, maybe some are but some guys just have a magnetic personality. They are happy with themselves and self-confident, they genuinely care about other people, and make others feel special. My grandpa is like this and while he is certainly not perfect, he has been a wonderful example for me. Don't hate on all charming guys just because you aren't... Yes, i agree with this. Though I would say many charmers are using people for sex (men and women), there are many who like making someone else feel good. I myself love trying to charm someone, i like the smile and the awkward moments, i like the buildup and the butterflies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minx2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 To me, MALE CHARMERS are: 1. Men who are extremely bright, smart and witty. 2. Men with confidence 3. Men with good leadership aura. They enter into a room and men and women gravitate towards him not bc he's loud, a braggart or anything like that. He just has this " quiet grace " that attracts people to him. 4. Men who are adventurous, worldly and lusty for life. 5. Men who are successful. 6. Men who have a somewhat " aloof, standoffish " exterior ( despite the wit and social charisma )....but is very warm on the inside once you get to know them a little deeper. FEMALE CHARMERS ARE : 1. Women who have a " vivaciousness " or " vibrancy " to their personality (e.g. They walk into a room and they are able to gracefully socialise with anyone and charm them ) 2. Women who are worldly, lusty for life 3. Women who are witty, sharp and quick with the quip 4. Women who love to laugh heartily 5. Women who are ACTIVE 6. Women who have a healthy self-esteem ( they know their worth, flaws and are genuinely happy with who they are, thus not depending on material things or other people to fulfill their sense of worth or happiness ). So, I don't agree with you when you say " charmers are men who may not be particularly talented or brilliant "...because usually, THEY ARE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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