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Honestly, in the beginning of our relationship I was living with him. He has a friend who said we were "using each other". He was using me to get over his ex and I was using him for a place to live. However, his behavior when I was living with him was really erratic and a few times he did things which sabotaged me (once telling me to "get out now" the night before I had a job interview.

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Honestly, in the beginning of our relationship I was living with him. He has a friend who said we were "using each other". He was using me to get over his ex and I was using him for a place to live. However, his behavior when I was living with him was really erratic and a few times he did things which sabotaged me (once telling me to "get out now" the night before I had a job interview.

 

Are you still trying to deny that this is emotional abuse?

 

Also, he flipped out one day, I was leaving for a few days and before I left he wigged out. During that time he blocked my number and went to visit her. He also hung out with this really low life girl from when he was single who still contacts him. he claims he saw these women so as to not think about me.

 

And, you still don't consider this to be abusive, as well as extremely disrespectful?

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i sent him mean texts yesterday referencing all of this. he was at a bar at the time. he claims he met another girl at the bar and she went home with him. he claims he took her to dinner tonight. I am unsure if this is possible or if he is just saying this to hurt me.

 

I think its possible he could pick a girl up, but why take a ****ty skanky bar **** to dinner? I blocked his number on my phone and blocked him on fb. I sort of feel like I'm in love with him, so it might all be worth it. But, on the other hand I know he is trouble for me.

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Why would you love someone that treats you like this?

 

you deserve more. There are plenty of men that won't hurt you emotionally or take out other women if you upset him :S

 

If you not having a job bothers him that much, he shouldn't be with you. I was unemployed for a while with my current partner and he didnt even bat an eyelid, he just supported me with looking for jobs etc.

 

If a friend was telling you this...you'd be telling her 'leave him!!'

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People on dating sites are not generally looking for platonic friendships. It sounds like you are staying with someone who (1) treats you badly and (2) you're not even all that into because you're lonely and have no friends. That is not a legit basis for a relationship. You need to focus on involving yourself in activities IRL that will allow you to cultivate real friendships.

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