Honey1976 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My boyfriend broke up with me six weeks ago. It has been a long, messy break up, including getting back together at one point briefly. He is now adamant it is over and will not take my phone calls. His last email to me was "I am sorry you are upset etc. and I never wanted to cause such pain and distress for you, but please, please, move on." I am so heartbroken... No words. Just spending most days crying my eyes out devastated and flooded in total pain. I love him so much and would do anything to have him back. Just posting here for some support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idkxxx Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 As you've probably seen from reading everyone's posts is that there isn't a straight answer on how to move on. There's really nothing anyone can say to just make the pain go away. It really is all in time. Take it day by day, one step at time. One thing that has helped me is really knowing I'm not alone. I would suggest not contacting him anymore because I can tell you it's a lot harder when you know they don't feel the same anymore. I wish I could give you a magical answer that would help you! Let all your emotions out and try talking to someone who you trust - it really helps. I used to try and hold back on crying but you honestly feel so much better afterwards. The extreme agony will pass and it will get less and less. The quicker you accept the break up the easier, I know I held on for a few weeks and it was just constant up and down. Time is the only thing that will really help and you need to allow yourself that time. Don't try to rush yourself or put pressure on yourself to be 'over it'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clueless11 Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 Agree with everything from idkxxx. I swear nothing hurts this bad. I've been putting a ton of pressure on myself to be over it, and trust me, it makes it way harder. But, I do believe in you! Replying to threads on here and trying to help others is really helping me. I feel better every time I get support. You should be sure to vent too. That pent up frustration and sadness will make your life much harder than it needs to be. Don't contact him, which sounds impossible. Im sure, but if you do, he will probably only hurt you. Don't give him that chance!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterPo Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 It will pass but no one knows when. Take a long walk, eat something good, sleep well and do it again. ENA never sleeps so someone is always at the gate. I wish you well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spd19 Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 Yes, I know how it feels. There isn't anything that hurts so bad. It has been 3 months since my BU and we too got together for a couple of days. The only thing I can tell you is that everything will get better. I am feeling much better now. It still hurts, just try to be positive, and look forward for the future when you will be alright! spd19 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CupidMissedMe Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 spd19 what happened? did you try to reconcile and it didn't work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nbr Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 I feel your pain. My wife asked me to move out after 10/10 years, we are working on it, but not a day goes by that I don't hurt. Have faith it will get better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spd19 Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 spd19 what happened? did you try to reconcile and it didn't work? She has been suffering from depression for a year. 3 months ago we started fighting a lot, and she couldn't handle the pressure so she broke things up by saying she needs space. during these 3 months she talked to me a couple of times telling me she misses me and wants to see me. one of those times we hanged out for 5 days, then she went to visit some family and told me she can't handle the pressure right now. We talked after that, but I think she doesn't want to be anymore or her depression is really getting worse and can't handle a relationship right now. Either way I told her is she needs to talk she can contact me and I've been doing NC. I am trying to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scar87 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 My boyfriend broke up with me six weeks ago. It has been a long, messy break up, including getting back together at one point briefly. He is now adamant it is over and will not take my phone calls. His last email to me was "I am sorry you are upset etc. and I never wanted to cause such pain and distress for you, but please, please, move on." I am so heartbroken... No words. Just spending most days crying my eyes out devastated and flooded in total pain. I love him so much and would do anything to have him back. Just posting here for some support. Yeah, I understand too well. Some people are just assholes like that. They don't understand the point of being in love, or they follow the lead of what they see other people do and take it as normal. People act like it's so easy to just erase a person, but if you're genuine, odds are that's a hard process and sometimes next to impossible. The best thing is to do things to make yourself feel strong and able. It's good to strengthen things you feel good at and try new styles so that you can make the ***** hurt a little when he sees what he passed up, haha. As far as when it gets better, I never fully healed or got over things that happened to me, especially if I was intensely into it, but I've learned to use that pain to improve myself. Some people have the means to immerse themselves in an environment where they can become happier and heal properly, but if you don't have that you can still use your own interests and goals to keep you strong. It's a hard road to cross, but not impossible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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