confused

[deana36]

Just noticed my ex sent me a email of a recent picture taken of us a day before the breakup. Why would he do that if wanting to breakup and why did he kept saying breaking up is not what he wanted. So confused..

[SapphireNoir10]

Don't be confused.

 

If he wanted to be with you, he would either have not ended it our he would tell you he want's to get back with you. I know it's hard because exes do send mixed messages, but for the sake of getting over him, worrying about the 'whys' and 'what if's' won't help

[mountainbiker]

I'm a novice on here, but it seems to me that either:

1. He still cares somewhat and thought it would help him feel better for breaking up with you.

-OR-

2. He's trying to keep you on the back burner incase he becomes unhappy or his new or next relationship doesn't work.

I'm sure others will chime in.

[sharky988]

Agree with both comments above.

 

Nobody wants to see themselves as "the bad guy." So it makes him feel better by sending the pic and saying those things. Also, he's probably afraid he won't meet anyone he likes better, so he wants to keep you on the back burner with mixed messages just in case he changes his mind later.

 

Ultimately, you deserve better than to be somebody's backup plan.

 

If he wanted to get back together now, he'd simply say so. Nothing is keeping him from being with you. He just doesn't want to. (Ouch -- sorry, harsh but true!)

 

Time to move on and heal yourself so you'll be ready to meet your next WAY WAY BETTER boyfriend!