My ex who left me for another guy is considering hanging out..can i get her back

[Erik Shleft]

I was with her for two years she left me and got someone right away, and was rubbing him in my face through facebook. anyway its been a month and 2 weeks of barely talking so this morning I texted her and acted like nothing was wrong. then i asked her if she wanted to hang out, she told no because she has a boyfriend who is protective and doesnt even like me texting her. so i told her he should trust her. she said "he had alot of exs who cheated i dont blame him" i said "it doesnt mean your going to, lets hang out" she told me " I dont think thats a good idea" and "sorry but I cant do that." i said i only want to hang out. (which is true, but so i can win her back) she texted 20 mins later "but why" i said "friends??" and "lets just meet on the trail for a walk and to catch up" she replied 30 mins later "mabe"

 

what do you think? can I steal her back? we were in love for over a year, at least i thought we were.

[camus154]

I think you're on a fool's errand.

 

Why are you trying to win back a girl who left you for another guy? Are you unable to meet other women?

 

Sorry man, but no woman is THAT special that you need to bother with "stealing her back".

[RedDress]

So you lied to her about your intentions for this get together?

 

Why do you want to be with someone who left you - 6 WEEKS ago - for someone else?? Don't you want someone who will cherish you and think they are lucky to be with you, not running off to be with other people?

 

I don't think you should be pressuring her to go out with you. This is bad news all around...

[EQIQ]

I think you're on a fool's errand.

 

Why are you trying to win back a girl who left you for another guy? Are you unable to meet other women?

 

Sorry man, but no woman is THAT special that you need to bother with "stealing her back".

 

This.

 

Plus OP, you sounded desperate and like a little boy begging for some attention. Give up man, this is foolish and humiliating. If I was her BF I would have told her.. "LOL, go ahead lol, go hang out with him". Nothing to fear from you friend, you have about as much at stealing her back, as a horse has at marrying a hippo.

[TopFive]

Oh heeelllll nooooo!!! I don't like this at all. First off, you should never EVER talk to a chick who left you for someone else. That is a heartless chick, you don't need her at all bro. What she is going to do now is use you as her plan B when her relationships that she actually wants don't work out. As soon as she finds another dude youll be kicked to the curb and you'll start the healing process ALL over again. Don't be this tramp's crutch or punching bag. Man up and do what you have to do to prepare yourself for a more deserving young lady.

[Erik Shleft]

well I really love this girl, and i know she loved me.. I hopping if get to hang out with her she'll realize she made a mistake. after I deleted her on facebook she started posting things that sound like shes not too happy from what i saw through my friends facebook who is still friends with her online.

[FrenchFries]

You practically begged her to meet up with you, and then she only said maybe. I don't think this is going to lead to reconciliation for you. Sorry.

[camus154]

People so often justify hanging on against an ex's wishes out of love. But amazingly, so few actually respect their wishes and let go out of that same love.

[ToF]

well I really love this girl, and i know she loved me.. I hopping if get to hang out with her she'll realize she made a mistake. after I deleted her on facebook she started posting things that sound like shes not too happy from what i saw through my friends facebook who is still friends with her online.

 

She loved you enough to leave you for someone else.

 

She should be the one actively pursuing you, not the other way around. She made the mistake, and she should be the one trying to fix it.

[ChellyV]

go strict NC. leave her alone to be happy, if she deserves such. don't do anything like this!

[Erik Shleft]

ok well is it a good idea to hang out with her that day and then leave her alone. I think this guy is a just a rebound.

[ToF]

No, it's not a good idea to hang out with her at all.

 

I know you want to see her. I know you think that will help. But this is not a good idea. Even if this guy is a rebound, she's PROVEN to you that she's capable of leaving you for another man. You need to try to move on, man. You need to stop trying to talk to her and see her.

[EQIQ]

Well, I don't think she is going to show up anyway lol. She just said maybe, so you would leave her alone, because you wouldn't stop begging her to do so. On the day, she will most likely come up with an excuse and not come. So whatever rocks your boat man, but you are just humiliating yourself and setting yourself up to get hurt.