confused?

[etadam03]

About a month ago the guy I had been dating for over a year broke up with me to work on fixing his depression. But he's only gotten a bit better and things are a mess between us. We still spend time together. He admits he still has feelings for me, but doesn't know what he wants. And he tells me I care about him too much, but then says I'm the only one who does care. Ive gotten to the point where I don't know what to do about him anymore. Help please?

[sppwwoe]

Does he take medication for his depression? Is there other women involved in the relationship? He might be seeing other women. Or he might need medication.

[Keyman]

This is probably going to be hard, but I think you need to give him a bunch of space to actually work on himself. He may actually find that his depression is set off by the relationship. I'm not saying by you, but by relationships in general. Perhaps he has high expectations of certain things that never come to pass. Perhaps there is a level of understanding between you both that is missing.

 

This is unfortunately something he has to work out for himself.

[etadam03]

No he went to a doctor (I don't know what kind) and they told him its part of adulthood and he needs a counselor. And I really doubt mood swings and being suicidal on and off is "adulthood".

But no, there's no one else. He was talking a some girl a while back but he came back to me and said they're staying friends because of his health. He does spend a lot of time with me, so I really doubt shes in the picture.