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Girls got me confused. What should I do?


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met a girl at work, got along great for weeks. Then after asking my height (5'9") she avoided me like the plauge. She is 5'7". Then she hooked up with a married player also at work, who knowing I liked her, came to my office and said, "I screwed her and there is nothing you can do about it." just to stroke his ego.

 

After a few months she comes to me complaining this guy is a zero and asked if I still care? This woman is 38 with a 3 year old son for which she does not have custody. This girl smokes, drinks and likes to have fun.

 

i still like her, but I don't know if she can be trusted. What should I tell her?

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Let's see: she is shallow in her choice of mates because of heighth.

 

She is not above screwing around with a married man.

 

She sleeps with someone quickly and then drops them quickly.

 

She smokes. She drinks in excess. She parties.

 

She has either had her son taken away or she has abandoned custody of him.

 

Sounds like a great catch to me!

 

Okay, on a serious note- do not let her draw you into her web, as you'll regret it!

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I think everyone else pretty much said it...this girl has trouble written all over her. As a matter of fact, you may want to go to your co-worker and thank him for taking her off your hands.

 

But you're not asking if you should stay or go, you want to know what to tell her. The answer lies in how you feel about her. The others have laid out their thoughts and here mine:

 

1. She's flakey - she hangs onto you, then onto him, then back to you

2. She's selfish - she does him then complains to you about him (which btw, this could be meaningless words, the truth is in her actions)

3. Not relationship material - her behavior in this situation and that mention "she likes to have fun" probably doesn't mean her idea of fun is staying at home on Saturday night playing canasta. If you want a relationship, she doesn't seem ready

4. She needs an ego boast - her question of if you still care makes me wonder about her self-esteem and concern about you. If co-worker comes to you and says he screwed her, he knows you liked her and therefore, she knows you liked her. Most likely she's bored with him and moving on, but to who? Oh yeah, backburner co-worker who may still like me.

 

I could go on but I feel I may sound judgemental which is not my goal at all, just pointing out things you've said about her. So to answer your question (sort of), what do you think you should tell her?

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Let's see, she chose a married office player over you, has lost custody of her child and parties like she's still 16. Unless you're in the market to get used and dumped and now have to face the xxxx from Hades at your office every day I say you tell her you're no longer interested and then be distantly polite and nothing else. And look elsewhere for someone who actually wants a relationship and not just a good time at the expense of the company who hired them.

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Sorry I don`t mean to be rude or make fun of you but this had me in stitches

 

"After a few months she comes to me complaining this guy is a zero and asked if I still care? This woman is 38 with a 3 year old son for which she does not have custody. This girl smokes, drinks and likes to have fun"

 

If you don`t see all the "wrongs" in that you should take your eyes off any woman you see for the next 6 months and figure out what standards you hold for yourself and what you accept and won`t accept in a womans behavior Remember, and I see all my friends do this all the time, they go for the woman who are 3s and 4s (on a scale from 1-10) when they should aim for the 10s.

 

"Aim for the stars and maybe you'll reach the sky"

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Let's see: she is shallow in her choice of mates because of heighth.

 

She is not above screwing around with a married man.

 

She sleeps with someone quickly and then drops them quickly.

 

She smokes. She drinks in excess. She parties.

 

She has either had her son taken away or she has abandoned custody of him.

 

Sounds like a great catch to me!

 

Okay, on a serious note- do not let her draw you into her web, as you'll regret it!

 

^^^^This. You need to seriously examine why you are still interested is someone with so many red flags. Plus all the potential workplace drama.... Where is your own common sense? In your heart, you must know she is bad news, right?

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