My boyfriend works a lot of hours?

[Shorty389]

My new boyfriend (of a month) currently works a lot of hours. It's a seasonal job so it will be ending soon but he can go from working 9 hrs a day to 18 hrs a day. He works 6 days a week and I work during the day. The day he has off we hang out heather is dinner my house or his house. The past two weeks he has had to work the ay he had off (problems at work hat he told me about) he also lives like 40 min. Away ski can't just say hey come over for an hour before work or bed etc. we do spend time with each their as often as we can. He came to see me theist time we saw radiotherapy and it was only for. Few hours before he had to work but bc it was a weekend and I had off he wanted to come see me anyway. Luckily this is a seasonal job and will be calming down within a month or two but it does stink sometimes bc it's a new relationship. I feel like I shouldn't make it. Big deal with him bc it's new relationship I don't want him to think I'm one of those girls who has to be with their bf 24/7. We get along SO well he says how he "super" likes me. I like him a lot to I wouldn't say love bc it's only been a month but is getting to that point. I just don't want him to lose interest bc we haven't seen each other in a while. But he says all the time how he misses me me I'm the only good thing going for him right now (bc work is so hectic for him). How do you deal with the distance in a relationship? This is also my first relationship that s getting serious so im also new to all of this also. He's a great guy and I just want to spend time with him but not want t sound to pushy or needy. Would love any advice! Thank you! Oh if it matters we are in our 20s. Thanks!

[SuperDuper]

This feeling you have of not wanting him to lose interest is common, and often makes people want to reach out to their partner as much as possible.

However, if he likes you as much as he claims then him missing you will very likely be a good thing for the relationship. You said yourself that this is only temporary, so use this time to show him (through your actions) that you aren't dependent on him for happiness and that you have a life of your own.

 

When you're both free then by all means meet up, but try not to force anything too quick. It's only been a month and there's plenty of time to let things develop naturally.

 

Good luck

[Shorty389]

This feeling you have of not wanting him to lose interest is common, and often makes people want to reach out to their partner as much as possible.

However, if he likes you as much as he claims then him missing you will very likely be a good thing for the relationship. You said yourself that this is only temporary, so use this time to show him (through your actions) that you aren't dependent on him for happiness and that you have a life of your own.

 

When you're both free then by all means meet up, but try not to force anything too quick. It's only been a month and there's plenty of time to let things develop naturally.

 

Good luck

 

Yeah, knowing its only temporary helps a lot. Thanks!

[laninaperdida]

Here's the thing about dating someone who works a lot...

There's more to the "If they want to make time for you, they will" philosophy in that it isn't always just a matter of want.

Capability plays a factor too.

Is he capable of making sure he got his laundry done so he can have that extra hour for you on his day off?

Did he organize himself to get to bed instead of playing COD so he could see you an h before work?

These are just examples, but you get my drift.

IME, guys aren't exactly organized so when he should be sleeping so he can get up an h earlier to see you the dude is play COD, lol.

Do NOT take his "choice" personally; he's a guy.

You gotta help him out a bit by somewhat making the decisions for him.

If he doesn't make it to your place an h before work go to his.

If he doesn't make it to your place before he goes to sleep go to his.

The dude works a lot.

Help him out, lol.

Also, it's just temporary.

Take this time to hit the gym & give yourself a facial.

Gotta have a bit of your pwn life so you don't freak out when he lives his.

[Shorty389]

Yeah makes sense. Luckily he doesn't play video games or cod hahaha. But yea esp bc he lives a distance away we both take turns going to each others houses he always makes sure we hang out in his day off. S luckily he does make time for me. Is going good and plan on keeping it that way thanks!