To Delete Him on Facebook Or Not?

[needygf]

It's now 22 days after BU and we didn't contact each other by any means. He's still on my facebook. I tried my best not checking his page. But I think/hope that he's checked mine when my friend tagged me a few photos on our nights out.

 

My question is, should I delete him? Because everytime I see his photo appear on the little six friend list square thingy, I'll be happy for a moment, but then I come to realize that that's all I got, nothing more.

 

I wanna delete him, but I also want him to see that I'm doing well. Not showing off or revenge, but just show him that I'm coping okay even without him (we broke up because I was too needy). And I start taking and editing nice photos again. Because he used to say that I have talent and shouldn't waste it.

 

But if I don't delete, I'm afraid one day he'll delete me first and it'll hurt more.

 

Any opinion or past experience? Thanks...

[markie6]

my extreme musings are there on this subject

[blossom777]

I would delete him. You don't need to show him anything anymore. That's just my opinion.

[Avila]

If it's going to cause you emotional upheaval just delete him. Problem solved. At this point it's more about what's best for you than what he thinks.

[TRM38]

Chances r your ex is dealing with things better than u, on the outside anyway .. They always do and u don't need to c it, delete and block in case u have mutual friends ..

[JANC]

My ex deleted her account just before dumping me.

 

I decided to delete her as a friend even tho she was not on anymore.

 

2 weeks ago she came back on Facebook and messaged me.

 

I did not reply but it set me back as I started looking at her picture everyday.

 

This had to stop so I have blocked her totally.

 

If I was you I would delete and block him to let you heal.

 

The first few days I thought I was being petty but if they want you they can find you.

 

Well I have moved since we split so thats covered.............lol

[needygf]

my extreme musings are there on this subject

Thanks Markie. It's a very good article.

[needygf]

Thanks everyone. I just deleted him on facebook and it feels so sad. I haven't checked his page for such a long time, so before deleting I did a final browse. It's such a weird feeling, we looked so happy in those old photos, how i wish good things can last. I broke down in tears after the unfriend stuff. I can no longer access his profile anymore. It's just sad. I'm now totally out of his life. I can still remember how we first met. Oh gosh. I love him so much...

[markie6]

I had to do a lot of deleting the other day, so much so I think I need a new delete button , however I am sure there is more there to delete when I have to unblock and check all the stories and stuff that are tagged , just be aware when you unblock for anything...you have to wait 48 hours to re block

 

so don't think you can do a sneaky and look and then re-block straight away

[needygf]

I didn't block him, just unfriend. Does it mean he'll still be tagged in those old photos from my album? Oh man, I really don't know much about facebook nowadays.

[JANC]

I had to do a lot of deleting the other day, so much so I think I need a new delete button , however I am sure there is more there to delete when I have to unblock and check all the stories and stuff that are tagged , just be aware when you unblock for anything...you have to wait 48 hours to re block

 

so don't think you can do a sneaky and look and then re-block straight away

 

 

Think that is the best bit about blocking.

 

You know it takes 48 hours to block them again which in my mind stops you from unblocking them in the first place.

 

To be honest why unblock them anyway when you only hurt more.

[JANC]

I didn't block him, just unfriend. Does it mean he'll still be tagged in those old photos from my album? Oh man, I really don't know much about facebook nowadays.

 

I unfriended my ex but all the messages and little notes from her were all over my timeline so I thought it best to block.

 

This makes sure.

 

You can not be a friend with an ex until your over them completely.

[sb12]

I unfriended my ex, and blocked her for a second, but then I went back and took the block off. I haven't visited her page in over a month, so having the block wasn't important. I get the urge sometimes, but thankfully I'm good at ignoring it. We do have a lot of mutual friends, though, and I'm sure most, if not all of them, know by now. I never talk about my ex nor the feelings surrounding the break-up; I only share that with my best friend (though I admit that one day I had just *had it* and put up a very sarcastic and angry status about my ex and her new found relationship, only to take it down a few hours later. Haven't said anything about them since).

 

I also deleted all the chat logs (I think it got up to over 8,000 messages between us over the nearly three years we've known each other, so that did hurt to let go), and all of her texts. She's still tagged in maybe one or two photos, one of them being a cute picture with two of our mutual friends at my undergrad graduation. I can't bring myself to delete that photo.

 

Also, my ex's sister is still on my page and though she was the first to know about us and probably saw the end from a mile away, I respect her too much to say evil things about her sister. Who knows what my ex is saying about me on facebook, if she's even saying anything about me at all, but respect is a huge thing for me so I keep the anger off of facebook.

[Maroon]

If you want to heal and have no expectations of reconciling with the ex whatsoever, I would suggest blocking the ex on Facebook. It hurts I know, especially if you have tagged photos together and memorable messages stored on your FB account. It's sad to let go of these things, but it must be done for healing to take place.

[needygf]

Most of the FB status/tagged photos after BU were meant for him. I just wanna show him that I'm doing fine. Now that I've deleted him, feeling kind of...I don't know. It was so hard to fake happy on FB, so it should be easier for me now. But then it feels like I have no motivation to look happy anymore, since no matter how good I'm doing, he won't know.