gtnovru Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Did anyone else cry today about their ex? If it helps, maybe we can keep this thread going for everyone to share their setbacks - and other users to provide comfort/support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andy94 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I haven't cried about my ex today, but there are times where she does cross my mind. I loved the girl to death, but 2 years ago this November, she broke up with me for another guy...I don't want to get into specifics, but I should have seen it coming i guess. O well...as i believe it's said, "live and let live". Ever since the break-up, whenever i started to get emotionally attached to someone they either weren't interested or had a boyfriend already (which is a real killer on a heart trying to find someone)...to be honest, i'm starting to think about possibly giving up on finding anyone... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secondchance67 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Cry for yourself...for the time wasted in your self imposed emotional prison for the last month and a half. Cry for what was....and what will never be again. Cry for yourself....cry, and forgive yourself for all you did to contribute to the demise of the R/S. Cry for your lost hopes.....your dreams of a future ......cry because you don't know what else to do but cry. Cry for the rebuilding process....the scary future you now have to face alone....one that will make you a stronger and more centered person in the end. Cry for everything that hurt you......all the things you'll never understand and those that you wish you could permanently erase forever. Cry....cry for the last time....let it out...wail...weep......and then............be done with it. Cry all you want to......Cry for anything you can think of.....just dont EVER cry over him.......he left, threw what you had away.....he isn't worth a single tear...NOT ONE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalsunrise Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I cried about my ex today. But I have to be head strong. He wasn't good for me. No amount of crying will change that fact. I still let myself cry...it's healing only if I don't lose sight of the truth. - That it's over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andy94 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 If he wasn't good for you, there's another truth you can stand on: you can do so much better than him hun. Don't let past experiences prevent future ones. Carpe Diem!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delicous Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I didn't but I feel it commin on probaly right before bed, but Im trying not to because I need to be strong than that....I do miss him tho and wonder what hes doing.....what sets me off on crying is the thought of him finding happiness with somebody else......and also the thought of him and I never getting back together ....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soybeans Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I think of him every single day. Not a day has gone by since he left that I haven't. I try to push it away. Today during class someone said his name and I felt a small wave of sadness overcome me in that moment. But I will not cry anymore. I have to be strong now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delicous Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I know how that feels to hear his name and think of him....believe me!! Stay strong girl, you can do this.....why cry over someone who wont cry over you? Thats what I think whenever i think of wasteing tears Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keykey Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I cry for him every now and then and I HATE this feeling! i dont know how should I cope with it! he is indeed not worth my tear anymore but I cant help it! I wish I could find another way to just forget about him and all the hurt he put me through Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idkxxx Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 It's been a month today since we broke up, and I guess about two weeks since things have really been over. I cry over him at least once almost every day, mostly when I'm alone. I miss him so much, but he's changed now. He's moved on I guess, and forgotten about me. It sucks but it's life. At least we have support from everyone here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reptilegirl Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 yes. but honestly trying to remember the "bad". How the last 2 weeks he hardly texted, always complained how "busy" he was, and broke up DAYS after saying he was 100% in the relationship and couldn't wait to marry me. He was an ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klin Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Yeah. This morning it was angry tears, and tonight it was while with a friend who told me "What I really want for you is to be with somebody who is totally head over heels for you - who couldn't doubt being with you for a second - who is completely in love with you." It's solely things like that which keep me going. It's only been 6 weeks since the breakup, and I've missed him every day. I'm trying to pick up the pieces and move on, but a large majority of my heart really wants to be with him because he is genuinely a wonderful guy, and I'm still in love with him - I don't think we were bad together. BUT the fact that he gave up means that he ISN'T all of the things that my friend described to me tonight, and I deserve those things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Limiya Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I haven't cried yet today, however the day is new. I almost cried this morning when i woke up. My first thought was him. I haven't cried for a few days, but sometimes i want to. I know it is for the best long term. I can only imagine myself in another three years being let down and having wasted a longer period of time. It's still hard when you miss someone. When he's been such a big part of my life, thoughts and actions for the past 6 years. There will be days very soon i will be crying more and more, but i will get through them eventually. Limiya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtnovru Posted September 25, 2012 Author Share Posted September 25, 2012 Had a big cry yesterday, almost one of those hyperventilating/panic attack cries... Can't believe I lost him. Can't believe he doesn't love me anymore. Feels like a really bad dream. I can't believe it's happened. I'm scared I'll never find that kind of love again. I hope he realizes really soon that he can't be without me. When we broke up he said "maybe in the future when we're both ready". That was 8 weeks ago. I just want him back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Blaze Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 i cry for different reasons now..i used to cry everyday because i missed her. Now i cry because im so pissed off I got stuck with the bills/cat and all the bad stuff..and she continues to live a care free life in college where every guy hits on her and tries to make her feel better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andy94 Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 to forget the pain a loved one put us through is indeed challenging Keykey. There's nothing much you can do to speed up how quickly (or slowly) your heart gets over them. I find that spending time with friends is a good way to distract yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SScolo Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am at work, was conducting an interview and the candidate mentioned her boyfriend and I almost lost it....managed to finish the interview and made it to the stairwell by the time the tears started...now sitting at my desk having a good cry. I miss him so much it is a physical ache. Will this ever go away? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ang33 Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Yes it's been 5 weeks since the BU and we were together 7 years. We has a great relationship but grad school and distance got in the way.. I cry about not having her in my life anymore. I cry about not knowing if I'm going to have a future with her. I cry for the marriage we had planned. I cry for the the children we wanted to have together... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtnovru Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 Ugggh another big cry today. For self torture, I drove by our old apartment, actually drove into the apartment complex and parked in front of our old unit... I just started at the windows, thinking how this time last year... we were in there together, happy and in love... But now he doesn't want to be with anymore, he left me for good over 2 months ago, and I'm not getting any better. Tried going on a date last night, got to kiss and flirt with a new guy - that was fun. But I couldn't help but think about my ex the majority of the time. How I wished I were with him instead. This pain is unreal. I don't want to be going through this. It hurts so damn much. I don't know how to function sometimes. I really hope my date calls me to meet up again - it would really help me right now. I'm in so much pain, I need a distraction. Kissing another cute guy helps. Ugggh when will this stop.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake_hope Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I did everything I could to ensure my ex and I will get back together following the advice in the getting back together forum. I had a positive attitude and was not able to cry, once we broke it off and I went to NC, the crying began. It's horrible, it's the most horrible feeling ever. I miss her so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocko123 Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I cry every dang day right now. I can almost induce it if I really try. What I've noticed is that some times of the day are worse than others. I'm not clear as to whether it's healthy for me or not but I do know I feel better afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtnovru Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 Has anyone in this thread ever SURVIVED a painful breakup? Or are we all new at this? This is hard! : ( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake_hope Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Yes it's been 5 weeks since the BU and we were together 7 years. We has a great relationship but grad school and distance got in the way.. I cry about not having her in my life anymore. I cry about not knowing if I'm going to have a future with her. I cry for the marriage we had planned. I cry for the the children we wanted to have together... I feel you man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steph2oo9 Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Gtnovru: I have survived a painful and dramatic breakup a few years ago. But this one I feel is much worse. We dated longer and did everything together. I just remember how hard my other breakup was and I am not looking forward to going through the pain again, especially if it's worse. I am having such a hard time, and he's not. Ugh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtnovru Posted October 11, 2012 Author Share Posted October 11, 2012 Gtnovru: I have survived a painful and dramatic breakup a few years ago. But this one I feel is much worse. We dated longer and did everything together. I just remember how hard my other breakup was and I am not looking forward to going through the pain again, especially if it's worse. I am having such a hard time, and he's not. Ugh. So you've successfully gotten through a breakup? Advice please!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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