Some advice to girls on dating sites

[quirky]

Girls, if a guy much more attractive than you messages you, most likely his only agenda is to sleep with you. He will feign interest and then once he sleeps with you, most likely he won't be calling you back. Or will only want a friends with benefits relationship.

 

For instance if you are only a 5 or 6, yet a handsome guy who's like an 8 or 9 wants to hook up with you, more than likely it's only a sexual thing. If you are fine with that accept it and enjoy. Just don't delude yourself into thinking guys of that caliber are interested in you for a serious relationship.

 

 

Not sure I totally agree with this..Sometimes very attractive guys can get anyone they want. They find it challenging to get a woman that is not instantly interested in him and that is often the nerdy, intellectual, intelligent woman.

 

 

As for online dating tips, the only things that can annoy me, are girls who are on there for the attention and have no interest in meeting up with you

 

You know this is one of the reasons I am so apprehensive about trying online dating. It seems like most people are on it after a breakup or just to get an ego boost. I don't know how many people are there to get something long term, including 2 male friends I know, they're just browsing.

[mfan]

RE: "Don't use text speak or unnecessary abbreviations and remember: good grammar saves lives."

 

The bad grammar/abbreviations isn't really a turn-off, but it makes me think the woman wrote her whole profile in 5 minutes just to see what would happen and isn't really serious about online dating. I've learned that lots of very smart people simply cannot spell or punctuate.

 

As for women's pics: Be aware that my default assumptions are:

- In an unlabeled group of people, I assume the ugliest person is you

- Any parts of your body that I can't see (e.g. teeth, torso) are assumed to be either missing or ugly

- Black-and-white photos, professional portraits, glamour shots, etc. are ignored for the purposes of evaluating your appearance

- Whichever photo makes you look oldest is the one that I use to evaluate your age, and this overrides whatever age you stated on your profile.

[Aggawam]

I started exchanging messages with a girl on an dating site this week. She is nice but she only have one picture of her face and nothing else... no other angles or body parts showing.

 

Is it rude to ask for more pictures? How do you do that?

[Ms Darcy]

Girls, if a guy much more attractive than you messages you, most likely his only agenda is to sleep with you. He will feign interest and then once he sleeps with you, most likely he won't be calling you back. Or will only want a friends with benefits relationship.

 

For instance if you are only a 5 or 6, yet a handsome guy who's like an 8 or 9 wants to hook up with you, more than likely it's only a sexual thing. If you are fine with that accept it and enjoy. Just don't delude yourself into thinking guys of that caliber are interested in you for a serious relationship.

 

That's a really mean comment. Not every "attractive" guy is only concerned with looks. And even if they are, not everyone finds the same type of women attractive. (That is why I find giving people numbers to be ridiculous anyway). And, yes, not every guy goes around giving women numbers.

 

You can be hot, but if you are a douche ... eventually ... women can leave you in the dust.

[Ms Darcy]

I started exchanging messages with a girl on an dating site this week. She is nice but she only have one picture of her face and nothing else... no other angles or body parts showing.

 

Is it rude to ask for more pictures? How do you do that?

 

How many pictures do you have up?

[LillyLooWho]

I started exchanging messages with a girl on an dating site this week. She is nice but she only have one picture of her face and nothing else... no other angles or body parts showing.

 

Is it rude to ask for more pictures? How do you do that?

 

If it were me, I'd take a chance and meet the person. There could be 100 pictures online but you won't really know what the person looks like until you meet face to face.

[Jamesonn]

11. Include a full body photo...none of that camera above your head photo crap. If you gotta lie about your weight in photo's and the guy expects something completely different he's not gonna be happy.

[annie24]

11. Include a full body photo...none of that camera above your head photo crap. If you gotta lie about your weight in photo's and the guy expects something completely different he's not gonna be happy.

 

yeah, i would rather a guy look at full body photos of me and decide he doesn't want to write to me.... rather than showing up on the date with a look of disappointment in his eyes.

[Aggawam]

Darcy, I have 3 pictures online... 1 very close only of my face, one from chest to head, and full body (I'm sitting). When I first contacted her I've had only 2 pictures... then I uploaded one more.... I think I'll upload a few more and see if she gets the message.

 

Although I think I'll go with Lilly's advice and try to meet her in person.

 

We both registered to this website just one week ago.... she said she have never registered to any other site like this, so she may have not choosen all the pictures yet....

[Ms Darcy]

Aggawam - She has 2 pictures to your 3. It would look rude if you asked for more pictures. Are her pictures blurry or something?

[Aggawam]

Aggawam - She has 2 pictures to your 3. It would look rude if you asked for more pictures. Are her pictures blurry or something?

 

Sorry Ms, I think I wrote it incorrectly.

 

I have 3 pictures (only face, not too close; one from chest up; full body, sitting).

 

She only have 1 (only face, very close, not enough light on the edges/border, it's a little bit hard to imagine the whole).

 

I'll find a few more and upload.... and see if she notices.

[Klokwurk]

Why are you sitting? Be a man and stand up in your photos.

[Aggawam]

Hey, I kept exchanging messages with this girl during the last week, and I posted a new picture.

 

On her last message she said: "I saw you put a new picture. I need to find time and post more pictures too".

 

Let's see....

[Aggawam]

And I asked, and she accepetd meeting some day in person!

Just have to pick a day.

[Patrick974]

8. Don't tell me that you've had 15 holidays in the last 18 months. It may sound glamorous and exciting but it makes me wonder how you manage to hold down a job. Seriously, one girl actually did this. She may have looked like a supermodel but she came accross as boastful and arrogant.

 

9. Don't tell me that all men are lying, cheating bastards. I'm sorry if this is your most recent experience but it doesn't exactly encourage me to say hello if you're going to tar us all with the same brush

 

Quoted for truth, great thread and great advices to the girls here.

 

I've seen women profile with things like "I pity you all guys, this site sucks" eh then why not give up these sites and go find someone IRL if we are such dorks and you are the Queen of England.

 

Also I've been insulted by a girl mocking my profession, that was some years ago she was like "OMG what a piece of ***** job you got, is that you ambition in life".

 

So yes, I should have ignored this but decided to stalk her and find out her facebook : she was a cashier in a cheap supermarket. But being pretty gives you the right to insult guy online or so it seems.

 

And yes, men can be idiots too, tons of them.

[pippy longstocking]

yeah, i would rather a guy look at full body photos of me and decide he doesn't want to write to me.... rather than showing up on the date with a look of disappointment in his eyes.

 

my mate met someone ..no body shots and clearly she forgot one important fact

 

she was 8 months pregnant

[sara-pezzini]

Girls, if a guy much more attractive than you messages you, most likely his only agenda is to sleep with you. He will feign interest and then once he sleeps with you, most likely he won't be calling you back. Or will only want a friends with benefits relationship.

 

For instance if you are only a 5 or 6, yet a handsome guy who's like an 8 or 9 wants to hook up with you, more than likely it's only a sexual thing. If you are fine with that accept it and enjoy. Just don't delude yourself into thinking guys of that caliber are interested in you for a serious relationship.

that is just bull!!!! i am a 5 or 6 on good days (at least, i think so) my bf is surely a 9 and he loves me deeply....deeply...so that is just total BS and offensive as well.....

why wouldn't a hot guy or hot girl fall for someone average looking but with great personality???

[sara-pezzini]

my mate met someone ..no body shots and clearly she forgot one important fact

 

she was 8 months pregnant

omg!! Lol!! did she seriously think he would not notice? or was she looking for a baby daddy and had a deadline? haha

[pippy longstocking]

omg!! Lol!! did she seriously think he would not notice? or was she looking for a baby daddy and had a deadline? haha

 

a deadline hahaha

 

he didn't see her again strangely enough ...it was more the not telling him than the pregnancy

[annie24]

Quoted for truth, great thread and great advices to the girls here.

 

I've seen women profile with things like "I pity you all guys, this site sucks" eh then why not give up these sites and go find someone IRL if we are such dorks and you are the Queen of England.

 

Also I've been insulted by a girl mocking my profession, that was some years ago she was like "OMG what a piece of ***** job you got, is that you ambition in life".

 

So yes, I should have ignored this but decided to stalk her and find out her facebook : she was a cashier in a cheap supermarket. But being pretty gives you the right to insult guy online or so it seems.

 

And yes, men can be idiots too, tons of them.

 

wow, how tacky of her. i mean, really, ugh. i have a phd and i would NEVER say anything like that to any guy, i don't care if he's a high school dropout scrubbing toilets. i mean, that just shows how ugly she is on the inside.

[Justpin]

Oddly enough I have a very low profile job, I have my own catering company. Hours are long, work is boring. People from all walks of life look down on you. A lot of people think that because you're working in such a low job that some how I am stupid or something.

 

 

Its a very ugly trait some people have. I think it stems from insecurity of others, though of course what do I know?

[annie24]

You have your own company!! Why would someone look down on that? Jealousy I guess...

[Patrick974]

wow, how tacky of her. i mean, really, ugh. i have a phd and i would NEVER say anything like that to any guy, i don't care if he's a high school dropout scrubbing toilets. i mean, that just shows how ugly she is on the inside.

 

Appaling isn't it ?

I laughed when I found out her FB profile (cashier) since my job at the time was still better than that.

Very disrespectful indeed, and she could as well ignore me if she was looking for either an attorney or doctor, instead of sending me cr*p like that but eh, some people are plain stupid.

[Thorshammer]

I started exchanging messages with a girl on an dating site this week. She is nice but she only have one picture of her face and nothing else... no other angles or body parts showing.

 

Is it rude to ask for more pictures? How do you do that?

 

Shes probably heavy or looks nothing like that pic. I know i am being blunt and borderline rude, but my experience says big flaaaaaag. I would ask why she only has one pic, and to give you more pics, dont waste yours or her time. I never understand why someone would put 1 pic up, unless they are afraid of being out there and seen by someone.

[Thorshammer]

11. Include a full body photo...none of that camera above your head photo crap. If you gotta lie about your weight in photo's and the guy expects something completely different he's not gonna be happy.

 

This has happened to me recently. I was sort of angry when i saw her, and i was pretty quiet throughout the whole date. All her pics was thin and sexy, in person she was pretty big. I felt tricked and manipulated, and i just counted the time until it was appropriate to say' 'goodbye, nice meeting you'. I had friends tell me i should have just left, because she lied to my face. If you want to avoid weird situations like this, then put up pics of your body. My bestfriend is a bit thick, and shes attracting very attractive men who love that shape.