whiteoleanders Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 Basically I just got out of a 2 and some year relationship. It's been 3 weeks, and he ended it because he said he felt he couldn't be in a relationship right now. I found out this past week that he's been seeing someone, so I decided that it was finally time for me to grab my stuff from his place. I tried to go when I thought he wasn't there, but he was and he confronted me for being there so i left. I had one of his friends ask him if it would be okay if my room mates went to grab my stuff for me today, and he said that was fine. Then when my friends asked him what time worked best for him, he said he would text me to let me know. So he just texted me, and told me that he will be home in 2o minutes and he will let me know when he gets there. I haven't responded. I initially wanted my roommates to get my stuff so I wouldn't have to see him, but now that I saw him two nights ago I want to go now. A piece of me I guess is hoping that when he sees me, we can talk about what happened. I knew realistically this would only pertain to just that, but I have a sliver of hope that maybe he'll realize he misses me ? My question is, do you think that I should go or have my roommates do it ? I am so emotionally confused and can't think straight, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 Go with your roommates. He is seeing someone....he checked out of your relationship and into another. You can't "talk" him into missing you and you really won't get any answers to your questions. Go w/ a friend so that you are not tempted to talk it out, get ALL your stuff so there isn't a reason to go back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiteoleanders Posted September 23, 2012 Author Share Posted September 23, 2012 I actually didn't end up going. I had my two room mates go, and I gave them a list of my stuff and where they could find it. He seemed to be thrown off a bit by it, which I can't say I'm not pleased about. I don't know if it was a good or bad thing, but I do know that it through him off momentarily and that is enough for me. A lot of my stuff wasn't returned, so he told them that if he finds it he will drop it off which is unfortunate because I really don't need to see him again. Also, he asked why I didn't go and my room mates told him I was busy. Still not sure if these are good ways to go about the situation. But thank you for your help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bw92116 Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 I think you did the right thing. Minimize your contact with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtnovru Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 You absolutely did the right thing! Seeing him, especially when he's in another relationship, is just rejection all over again. You don't need that. That's just pouring salt into your wounds. Good decision! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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