Me and my friend

[thefriend]

My best friend has just come out of a long term relationship, she is 20 and has a 4 month old baby. My problem is I have very strong feelings for her. I love both her and her baby, I spend most of my free time with them. I have felt this way for a long time but have not done anything due to the relationship, I felt and still feel that I would do anything to make her happy even if that meant keeping my feelings to myself. Now she is out of the relationship she has been talking about her newly discovered high sex drive and feels lonely so she has been actively looking for her next relationship, she has been asking me her advice on many issues including advice on whether she should persue a relationship with one of my friends. I want to give her good advice. The problem is I cannot on the basis of my feelings. it is starting to get harder to put a brave face on. I think that she is way out of my league, not only in looks but everything. I dont find myself attractive, im overweight and genuinely not great to look at. I also dont wish to destroy our amazing friendship.

[Natasha24]

I don't think it would be a good idea to tell her about your feelings right now. Since she JUST got out of a long term relationship, it's very unlikely that the next relationship she has within the next few months will be anything other than a rebound. I think, for now, you should continue to be her friend and give her advice the best you can. Eventually, I do think you should tell her your feelings. You will regret it if you don't.

[csr14]

I would tell her the truth - tell her you have a little stronger feelings for her than you wish you had and that giving her relationship advice would be very hard for you. Leave it at that - if she asks questions, tell her you don't want to talk about it further to avoid making things weird between you bc her friendship and baby mean a lot to you.

[pl3asehelp]

When one person has romantic feelings like you do, it's not a friendship. You need to be honest with her.