I feel like I do this NC thing forever

[VeryConfused17]

So its been since January that we last spoke, had a brief email exchange in february. the BU was last Sept/October time. The BU was pretty harmless, mutual (sorta, i agreed to it). Anyways it hurt real bad when I found out she had moved on. I've come a long way so far. The past 3 days seemingly out of nowhere shes kind of made her way back into my head. I think it may be because i just got back from a trip where my friend who also was going through a BU about the same time is dating again. I'm also quitting all forms of nicotine (day 2 yay). And I am taking a trip back to her home city for a wedding I am attending.

 

Whatever the reason may be she's back in my head. I'm not going to break the NC. I've truly accepted that it's over and I really don't want to get back together with her. Is this what NC will feel like if I keep doing it forever.. which I know I am very capable of.

[mhowe]

In time, you will forget about her.

 

She is back in your head because your friend, who broke up same time as you, is dating again.

 

So ---date!

[bunny45]

Something must have triggered the memory of her?

 

If she was a special person in your life, I imagine you'll always have thoughts of her.

 

Congrats on kicking the habit!

[csr14]

Once you breakup with someone it's almost the same steps as recovery from addiction - not saying you were addicted to her but recovering seems to become like that. Along with recovery there is often relapse - relapse can be triggered by anything - or nothing at all. You can relapse bc of a memory or a song, or just a thought. Relapse in recovering from a relationship seems to be easier to bounce back from than the initial pain so just know you will have good days and bad days, lately you've had a few bad days. Things are getting easier and will continue to do so.