Sparkie84 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Hi all I was here a lot when I first split with my ex. I'm moving on with my life and feel I need less support but there isn't a day that goes by when I don't think about him. I started dating again initially but now I've took a step back and focusing on other aspects of my life. I hope that one day he'll be a distant memory. I still don't think i'm over him, at all. We were only together a year but it still hurts.
pippy longstocking Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 HIya darling good to see you , its been ages xxx you sound like you have gotten to grips with the facts and have accepted ..so that is fabulous ...In time the thoughts will become less and less ..or they just don't register anymore as painful . hope little one is ok and it is good to see you have moved forward , you where in a horrible place bless you xx
FreeFallFeelin Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 7 months on and I still think about he ex all the time too Sparkie. You are not alone!
Jim Wormold Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 End of August it will be a year. I cant move forward. Wish I had some kind of contact. Miss her so much. I hate the weekends. Waking up in the mornings has become dreadful. I know I should go out but I think people sense I am unhappy. Yet, the more I stay at home, the more unhappy I get. Sorry to unload this discouraging comment. I just feel so down all the time.
tness Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Sparkie: 7 months. My brain is still working like crasy with only one thought: Her
pippy longstocking Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 oh great what are we the 7 month and can't get over it gang ...
Jim Wormold Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 oh great what are we the 7 month and can't get over it gang ... i am the odd one out. hope i can tag along anyway, ha
pippy longstocking Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 course you can jim ..as long as your as fecking miserable as the rest of us
lorelaijones Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 But are you guys having contact with those people? Or totally NC?
Jim Wormold Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 course you can jim ..as long as your as fecking miserable as the rest of us oh, i have lots of miserableness to offer. i am good! just watch me now (pulls sour face) havent seen her since february when i bumped into her. they were two women and two men, out for some theatre. she hadnt seen me yet and i almost fainted. had to sit down somewhere for a bit before i could approach her. ... i dont know if after almost a year, this should be classed as unhealthy obsession, or grieving.
lorelaijones Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Wouldn't you consider talking to them, trying again? I mean, it's a long time. Is waiting around for the only answer?
quirky Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I'm 9 months out and I am not over it yet either. Feels more like 5-6 months cos that's when I went hardcore NC. Breakups are so difficult, for me it has affected my self esteem quite a bit. I'm interested to hear what others find their biggest obstacle.
Sparkie84 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 Aw well it is good to know I am not alone. I haven't been totally NC. We were exchanging the odd email. The last one I got from him was early June and I didn't reply. I then saw him and it really shook me. I felt nervous and awkward. That was a few weeks ago. I still check on his fb and twitter from time to time I know I shouldn't. There's no way we will ever get back together. He has a new girlfriend and things are going great apparently - according to him. Not what I wanted to hear! I just wish I could stop thinking about him. Every day when i'm driving in town I still look out for his car :s
soybeans Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 But are you guys having contact with those people? Or totally NC? Total NC. Wouldn't you consider talking to them, trying again? I mean, it's a long time. Is waiting around for the only answer? I texted him once in March, and asked him if we could meet to talk. He told me he didn't think it was a good idea so I backed off. I'm not about to reach out again only to be rejected. So I guess I have my answer in a way, though I would have preferred some kind of an explanation instead of silence.
secondchance67 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Where do I get my membership card? Is there going to be cake and drinks served at our first meeting? (ShootingStar - I'll meet you in the parking lot after the meeting to burn a fat Marley ) All kidding aside.....It all went down in January....so I am right there with you all. I had a major revelation and wake up call provided by a friend yesterday, and it rocked me to the core, but none the less... I still think of her every.. .....single....day. The heart is a funny thing, isn't it? ....it is more durable that the hardest steel, and as vulnerable as a new born baby.....and it rules the game of love, whether we like it or not.
marconi68 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Oi !!! Starrrrrrrr!! Don't get Secondchance into bad smoking habits, bird. Naughty Naughty Naughty Naughty Naughty Naughty Naughty Naughty. Now pass the Marley link removed
pippy longstocking Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 But are you guys having contact with those people? Or totally NC? toally NC 7 months now ... Where do I get my membership card? already got you pencilled in SC Oi !!! Starrrrrrrr!! Don't get Secondchance into bad smoking habits, bird. ahhh mac ..you cought me ...don;t you worry , if that saucy minx from accross the pond was here now he wouldnt need much encouragement
StandingProud Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Just about 6 months since she told me her feelings for me weren't the same as mine were for her. It's been quite the rollercoaster in this time to be honest, where I've had days where's she's almost been sitting on a bench in my mind watching my every move and I've not been able to get away. So, you're certainly not alone, but take solace in the fact, Sparkie84, that you realised you needed to take a step back from things which is a good place to be on that road to recovery.
OldSoul86 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 7 months since the break up here as well. I don't think about her all of the time thankfully. When I am with family, friends, or really focusing on my work it tends to ease my mind. Lately I have been actively trying to move on, and have met a few new girls (even gotten a few phone numbers.) It has helped shift my focus a little bit more, and has made me realize that I am going to move on and be happy. The sting from the break up has mostly subsided, and I think a lot of it had to do with me breaking contact and having my ex pour more salt in my wounds after I poured my heart out to her (it still makes me shake my head to this day - she is so cold and emotionally broken.) The sad days are becoming less frequent and I am becoming optimistic for my future (I get my degree in December, and get my teaching certificate in December 2013, and I've made some strides in the self-confidence department by approaching women, chatting with them, and making friends with them.) Time and space really do make things better everyone. Stay the course, hell - push yourself a bit, maybe try seeing what is out there for you romantically. It may help improve your outlook on life and your situation.
mg22 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Bu 7/4/2011 breadcrumbs 12/04/2011 last contct 2/7/2012 nc 100% since 2/7/2012 and iam still hurting , and thinking of him daily
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