Getting over someone you live with

[NiceGuyUK]

10 days ago my relationship ended with my girlfriend. Its a story I guess you guys have heard many times... she told me she no longer felt the same way as she used to. This was extremely upsetting as I didn't see it coming and of course my initial reaction was to try to get her back. This was of course unsuccessful.

 

We are both 23 and had been together almost 4 years and living together for over 2.

 

I am desperately trying to get over her but the problem is we live together and due to financial constraints will have to for the next 5 months.

 

We get along fine, the breakup was hurtful but not angry. My problem is I still love her and as we live together its hard to get my act together and mend my broken heart. I've been filling my time with work and friends but its so difficult to let her go. We're giving eachother as much space as we can (and we sleep in separate rooms) but seeing her for even a few minutes a day is reminding me of what I have lost.

 

Has anybody else been in a similar situation? Did you find anyway to make this easier?

[Tired Tiger]

You risk going completely insane if you remain living together for another 5 months. Seems like you're already realizing that. One of the two of you must get out of there - where there's a will, there's a way...

[NiceGuyUK]

I'm going to talk to her tonight and get something sorted. But it will likely be 2 months before we can move out due to our contract.

 

I thought I was healing but this morning I was physically sick... I guess the anxiety has caught up with me. I spoke to a friend from work who said he's looking to move and we should get a place together... But it seems so far in the future that its hard to look forward to.

 

I just want to feel like I'm going to feel better

[NiceGuyUK]

I should mention that this was my first love and I've never had to deal with anything like this before. I just feel so worthless. Ive gone from feeling like the luckiest guy in the world to a total mess. It feels awful to say it but this has hit me harder than deaths in the family...

[Samiilo]

well think you need to keep a bit far from her

[Samiilo]

you can have some fun with friends get busy all day

[abitbroken]

Well, either of you can get a roommate, right? Why can't one of you move out and the other take in a roommate?

[howdoifeel]

dude, i had to do 2 months of that, we werent officially broken up but it felt like that, and it killed me inside. Dont let it happen

[NiceGuyUK]

you can have some fun with friends get busy all day

 

I've been trying to work loads. I love my job (video game designer) and it makes me feel great about myself. Its just so hard when I see her after work.

 

She is going away for a week next weekend to see family. I'm going to try and maintain NC for that week but I'm scared I'm just going to be looking forward to her coming back

[NiceGuyUK]

Well, either of you can get a roommate, right? Why can't one of you move out and the other take in a roommate?

 

She is sleeping on a camping bed in the small spare room. The house is really made for a couple or one person.

[NiceGuyUK]

Well I did it! I told her I wanted to move out sooner. She seemed okay - said she would move back to her hometown.

 

One thing I'm noticing is that my appetite for food has plummeted. I'm a slim guy but usually eat loads, for the last few days I can only stomach very small portions.

 

Is this normal?

[copper87]

I lost about 10 lbs in the week after my ex dumped me because I was vomiting almost everything I tried to consume and/or unable to consume anything at all. I still can't stomach breakfast most days. You are experiencing a lot of stress and anxiety, and your stomach is reacting to those feelings. Maybe stick to some bland, easy to digest food and don't stop drinking water.