Here is my story.

[GpwrH02]

I met this woman on link removed. We were with one another roughly for around one and a half years. She was 42 and I was 25 at the time. We both knew the relationship would go nowhere outside of the bedroom. She had three kids, and was a widow. We had a terrific sex life, but other than that we really didn't share common interest in life. I'm young, trying to put my life together and finish college. She was looking for a grown man with his own life, and for them to grow old and enjoy life together. To make a long story short, as the months went on, we became emotionally and physically attached to one another. Almost like we were seriously dating at one point. You know, the usual, Call each other everyday, text, see each other at least two to three times a week, and spend every weekend with one another. We truly did fall in love, and love eachother deeply. In the end, the age difference got to her, and what I truly believe is, the fact that nobody will take the place of her deceased husband. She has three kids, which the oldest was only 5 years younger then me. The fact of the matter is, I begun to love this woman dearly. Putting the age difference and our differences in general to the side. As time passed, she slowly realized that this relationship was nothing more then a bedroom relationship. I started feeling the same way, and also felt like something needed to happen. I just couldn't come to the terms of ending it because of how I still felt about her. I realized it wasn't something that was suppose to last forever, but in the end I guess her breaking it off, and feeling rejected is what has gotten to me the most.

I played the usual, text, and email game. Trying to win their hearts and minds back, which btw never works. But at the same time it's just hard to stay silent.

 

Now the story gets better.

 

Keep in mind, we hadn't seen one another in over two months now. This past Sunday evening, by chance I go down this one road, guess who is there with her oldest son trying to fix their flat tire? Keep in mind, she lives clearly 30 min away from this location. So I try to be the bigger man, I stop and offer to help. First, I ask laughing, what are you guys doing here? She laughs and says she was at her "friends house", and her son came to fix the flat tire. She proceeds to ask me for a hug with a big smile as soon as I got out of my truck.. I almost felt like breaking down right there.. But... (Problem one), sons truck was nowhere in the area, and obviously the son came to pick her up from somewhere. So at this point I don't think much about it. I help fix the flat, barely making eye contact with her, while fixing the flat she was on the phone and all over the place, almost like she was nervous about something. When I was done, I said have a good night, just short and simple. I shook the sons hand and went about my business and left. Slowly watching them pull away.

I do realize she does indeed have a friend from her job that lives in my area, considering she always talked about him and how they have been friends for years. The fact of the matter I don't understand, is why she needed her son to drive from 30 min away to pick her up at 8 pm at night? Like something obviously had happened that she needed to get away. The mans house she must of been at, obviously picked her up at some point, just to make her get a ride home or something? Wouldn't this FRIEND have come and fixed her flat as well? Seemed off and rather odd to me.. Anyways, the truth in the matter is, I will never know and I can't assume. The sole purpose of this post is.. What does this mean? From the hug, to the kind manner towards me she was in? I went home that night thinking I would get some type of text or email.. Nothing.. I have not responded or said anything back. I know deep down she is expecting a text or email message from me as well, after that situation. To add some more information into this, roughly two to three weeks ago I tried my final stand of getting her back. We basically had a falling out and no words were exchanged after her initial response. We had been silent for roughly two to three weeks at this point with N.C. I was doing better, and finally starting to come around to getting over it. (BEEN down this path before). I think the fact that I bumped into her in person, is what put me back to square one.

 

So to sum it up.. I do love this woman dearly, I would do anything in my power to try and get her back into my life, but she just isnt budging, so I started moving on. I also know you can't force things in life to happen. I know all about the N.C rule, to heal yourself which I have been practicing for several weeks now. I know this all began off a sex relationship, to basically satisfy the needs of that empty intimacy in life. But over the past year and a half it grew into something much greater for me. This is why these passionate relationships with no strings attached can be lethal... This isnt the first time I have been heart broken over an ex, but by far this is the hardest one yet. Although my relationship wasn't as serious as some past ones, this one def ment the most to me.. I think in the end, the lack of interest in things in life from one another, really made this relationship split apart, and the age.. I just don't truly know what to do. I really feel like having a conversation with her, but I know it will go nowhere. She doesn't hate me it seems. I did ask her to meet me about one month ago, all she said was she was busy and their is basically nothing left to discuss. Easier said then done I guess. As you can see, this is one heck of a jam for me, going from finally starting to be able to move on with my life, to being thrown right back into square one..

 

Thank you for reading my story...

[dasilver]

She was 42 and you were 25 at the time...

 

She knew and you knew the relationship would never develop into something meaningful....

 

When she bumped into you she behaved like an adult...nothing more.

 

She wants somebody she can grow old with...She can't do that with you...

 

...and you...don't you want to get married some day yourself?....and have kids of your own?

 

How is she going to settle down and grow old with someone if she's with you? How are you going to find a beautiful younger girl if you're with her?

 

It was good while it lasted...Take it for what it was...and move on....She has.