Twice in one month?!?! Makes me feel so stupid

[Hardtimes]

My ex of 2 yrs breaks up w me saying something is missing an keeps coming back and i keep getting burned....twice this month she broke up with me and i feel its really not me...worst is i take it and dont feel an ounce of anger...i feel so used and so lost, i wish i can kist wake up and this is all over, i feel so vulnerable, weak, and stupid, although im extremely good with nc i dread the day she calls me if she ever will, or the day shes w someone else, i hate myself for missing her, its the most helpless feeling

[mickydrip]

Im hitting the same type of crossroads as you, but i havent had the on off thing like you seem to. Just while your doing the NC thing you need to find your independance again, you need to find yourself as hard as it is and when you talk with her again you need to both sort out the route of the problems and if you can .work around them fight for it or if its not worth it. but for now keep yourself busy and do something good and to better yourself. Gym? hobby? study? work? hanging out with friends? just something to keep you busy and you will feel better when you get yourself some confidence and you just need to put your foot down and talk about everything. but i know how your feeling. it sucks man

[Hardtimes]

Mick, ur absolutely right, i dont think shell ever come back thats y im mending myself, i will never ever be a doormat again, but if the situarion presents itself i will never ever take her back wihout therapy or professional help

[mhowe]

You are the one letting her come back. Close the door.

[Hardtimes]

Mhow i know lol, workig on it, hence i feel stupid

[mickydrip]

Good. I just wish my answer was as easy. Though it wont be easy for you but just concentrate on other things get your life in order!