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What do you men like?

 

I am fairly inexperienced in terms of only have one partner before my current man. My ex was very much the kind of person who treated it like a chore, once every two weeks, wham, bam, how's ya mam, and it was done. Five minutes until he got his then rolled over. So, I brought NO skills to my current relationship. My man said last night he likes the idea of me only ever being with one person and being able to teach me new things and experience it with me. However, I'd like to be able to please him without him guiding me on what to do. I lack on the giving him foreplay front.

 

What can I do? I don't wanna tug at him too hard! And is there just the hand work and mouth work? What about playing with his testicles too? Do guys like that? With my hands or mouth?

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Well... for one it's not rocket science so don't worry! Part of knowing how to please someone is knowing their bodies a little bit and their responses. So you will have to ask him what he likes in broad terms and go from that. You can do a lot with your mouth, varying between licking, sucking, veeeeery gentle nips and so on can make a bj interesting for a guy. You can use your hand to massage his testicles while your going down on him if you want but just gage his reaction to see how much/little he likes it. Some guys are too sensitive. You can suck on this skin of his testicles. You can do a lot really it's just all down to experimenting as a couple. Don't concentrate all your attention on his downstairs though, lol. Have fun!

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oh and by sucking i mean, like sucking in air as you do down on him so it's like suction? Idk but I've never got any complaints.

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Thank you!!

 

It was you who gave me awesome advice yesterday too - Thank you so much! Last night was just amazing. I instantly felt relaxed after you advice yesterday and it was like a switch had flipped. I got mine like 3!!! times! We also got into quite a deep conversation about it too, initiated by him, and he's worked out exactly what I like and need. So thank you for such good advice. Xx

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love may I just out of curiosity ...is this the man you made all the threads about or did you move on from him ?

only asking because I remember writing and saying well done ect ect that you where ok together ..so this is

just curiosity

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I will have a look ..I wasnt on in 2011 .so I may have the wrong person ..I just recall saying well done that it all turned out well .

 

no april this year ...you had to cancel holiday but he didnt want space from you ..

like I say I was only curious what happened after it seemed ok

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Ah right! I'm not sure it was me then? I broke up with my ex partner at the start of 2011 and joined here in April 2011 for advice. I eventually accepted he was a huge a$$ once I found out he was with his receptionist. And I met my current partner in September 2011. We had one or two hiccups, mainly with him having a lot of stress at the start with things out of his control that he didn't feel it was fair to bring me into, but we have been a solid unit now since November 2011 (of course with the odd hiccup but that's what relationships are about hey). I'm just on a mission now after our chat last night to please him as much as he does me (although he says I do). I may appear that I'm in a new relationship by asking posts like this now, but nope, he's been my guy since September xx

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Oh cool ..I had a look back and it was april just passed , but so glad your and him made it ..its nice to know and sorry for been off topic ...you know when curiosity gets the better of you ..either that or I have no life at all and want to know how everyone elses turn out ...haha xx

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Women usually dont have to do too much, just cheer the guy on and make him feel like hes good at what he does. Moan, look at him, squeeze his body, tell him it feels good- that alone will make you unforgettable. Dont be shy, this is simple things. Even the women that werent good with bjs still did something, because it got me excited that they had my weewee in their mouth.

 

I dont care if a woman did anything with my testiciles. There is like a window of 5-10 seconds that its super sensitive (in my case, i dont know about other dudes). When a dude busts, i can only imagine how it would feel if he had that spot licked at the same time.

 

Sex has to do with what you do before he whips the weewee out. Behavior is key, what does he like? I like very feminine "ewww thats nasty" girls, i like to pull down pants and tell her to "shush". If someone knew me, they would play along. It doesnt matter how the sex turns out, i would still be super-horney, and well on my way to busting.

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Oh cool ..I had a look back and it was april just passed , but so glad your and him made it ..its nice to know and sorry for been off topic ...you know when curiosity gets the better of you ..either that or I have no life at all and want to know how everyone elses turn out ...haha xx

 

 

I'm such a doofus! I just had a look back and know what you mean. I completely misunderstood him on that occasion, bless him. Aww thank you for your well wishes. We really do have a great relationship right now. He's pretty awesome if I do say so myself lol xxx

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Thank you for the male advice I have a very good idea of what he'd like now after reading a few comments. I think sometimes it's about what happens in the heat of the moment rather than planning what to do, but I feel better having an idea on how better to surprise my man xxx

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So every guy is different - what works for one may not work for the other. My current partner LOVES me to kiss, lick his neck. But I also do this with his chest. I also always initiate foreplay by laying on his chest and so lightly run my fingertips all over his chest, arms, and neck, and getting lower by his belly button. Eventually under the band of his boxers. He loves that and I take my time. Kissing is amazing forplay and I put my hands on the back of his head or neck and twirl his hair during a make out session while pushing my hips into him.

 

The most pleasing thing you can do for a man is enjoy it and let them know how much they enjoy it. Every once in a while I'll saying something really really dirty that will embarrass even him! But also I do enjoy it, I'm not quiet about it (his poor former roomates will attest to that), and I think the enthusiasm, if real, is enough to blow their mind.

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^^ Thank you! I do do all of that so I think I do believe him a little more now when he tells me he's very satisfied. I think doing a little bit more will be mainly for my own piece of mind, but I know he'll enjoy it too ;-)

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Hmm, well its hard to give a graphic description of these types of things without getting my post deleted

 

I've had nothing but positive feedback about my performance in that department, and I have two people to thank for that - the first guy I slept with, and some girl who wrote an article I googled lol.

 

I had the benefit of having my first experience with a guy who was willing to teach me. I consulted sexual advice columns online, read a few books about how to pleasure a man, and had was able to practice these things on the guy. He was/is a good friend of mine and was very willing to guide me and show me what felt good. Each man is going to be different in what he likes - some like it gentle and like to be teased where they are sensitive, and the odd guy will want it rough. One guy I was with actually told me to bite it! (Definitely not average, but this shows you the many guys are different)

 

To give you a few basic answers to your questions... When using your hands, you don't want to "tug", but "rub" and squeeze your hand a little more as you stroke upwards towards the tip (the head of the penis is the most sensitive). Yes, most men I have met enjoy having their testicles played with. They can't orgasm from this alone, but there are many nerve endings down there and it feels good.

 

Anyhow, in a nutshell, you're in a good place because he is willing to teach you Don't be too eager to become an expert overnight, you have the same benefit that I did - a man who is willing to teach, and an internet connection. lol

 

If you'd like me to share some of the more graphic stuff, feel free to private message me and I can share. Like I said, most of the details probably aren't appropriate for the forum haha

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Look up the frenulum. It's the spot to hit when you're giving a BJ.

 

No teeth. Deep throat if you can, no biggie if you can't. Mix it up. Don't just do one thing. Lick, suck, swirl around the head.

 

Testicles are meh. Some guys may dig it but honestly I've never heard a guy be like "I love it when my balls get grabbed". Unless you're on top or he's behind and you reach around and rub them.

 

Handjobs are meh as well. Very few women do it all that well but it feels great when they do. If you want to know how to be good at it, ask to watch him masturbate in front of you.

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For me, it's the feet. I'm a foot guy, so a woman who takes excellent care of her feet will go a long way with me. I love giving foot massages, little light kisses to the soles, things like that. Of course that's not the only thing, but that is definitely my forte. Overall I just enjoy making my partner happy (at least when I did have one). As long as it's not too crazy, whatever she's asking. But I used to love rubbing my ex's feet after a long day or just rocking her world til the cows come home and then falling off to sleep together in our spoon. Good times, I miss that.

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All the specific advice given already is good stuff, and has a good chance of helping. I think the undercurrent that will bring it all together, though is to pay attention. That alone will make anyone a better lover!

 

What gets a powerful erotic reaction? What gets a nice relaxed but still charged reaction? What makes you feel like you're connected to him? These are the things to repeat and move between. Listen to the sounds he makes, observe how his body reacts to your touch, and how he pulses (not just there!) against your touch or mouth. And enjoy what you do; there's not much that turns most people on more than knowing their partner is having a good time!

 

Play well, have fun, make eye contact, and enjoy!

 

Light and laughter,

SongCoyote

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