Working on things with my ex...a little rocky.

[KatieL]

e and my ex (a month ago) have been through a lot since the break up. Lots of ups and downs. We are still working on fixing us and getting back together, but he is having a lot of personal problems with family and not having many friends to vent to. I told him I would be there for him 100%. He knows I still love him.

We had a big fight about 2 weeks ago because a friend was starting rumors about him, I got upset, kinda said some hurtful words, but we are past that. Since then we have hung out 3 times since then. THe first time i cried because I thought we were done for good. The second time was great, no problems, we were perfectly ourselves. The third time was last night, we saw fireworks, then hung out at his house and then I got upset because I realized I missed him. He got upset too for certain reasons. he is worried that every time we hang out its going to be like that when he hangs out with me to get his mind off of his problems and just wants to be happy. I start to feel like I should give up sometimes, because he just ignores my texts when I want to talk about us, and he still has yet to ask me to hang out. Tonight he was at a funeral for a fraternity brother and texted me after saying it would have been great if I were there, that he was a wreck. I said I couldn't make it because i didn't have a car. and he said that he wore a tie I bought him so it was kind of like I was there. I apologized and said I wish I could have been there, he said I wish you could have been too....and I said whats with the...? He said it was a disappointment that I couldn't make it. I told him that I didn't think he wanted to see me, I really dont' and he asked why and I said thats just how it seems sometimes. No response. I then texted him apologizing if it irritated him, I just wished he would let me in his life and prove myself. Again, no text

 

However just saturday we exchanged some e-mails and he said in it "do I want us to work? of course I do. But like I have said before there are some changes that need to be made." (such as problems in the relationship)

I want honest opinions, I was going on two days NC (after today would have been going on the third day, but he texted me this tonight)

 

What i'm asking is what do I do? How should I approach this situation on getting us completely back together, even though he said we will. Should I just go back to NC and not ask him to hang out until he does?

[misspaige]

Don't try so hard girl.. You can't sound desperate. If he doesn't reply to your message, then you definitely should NEVER send it again. I understand your pain, trust me.. i do! I went through the same stuff with my ex. You just have to make him tell you yes or no.. If he says yes, then just work on getting your relationship back on track. But if he says no, you need to move on. The more you drag it on, the more you will end up getting hurt.

[KatieL]

Thats the thing, he has said yes, but like tonight is texting me all these things, then bam just ignores me. it really is messing with my mind and his actions aren't really backing up his words!

[tjcalif]

Hey KatieL

You are so right! His actions do not back up his word !!!!

See you know whats up!

I have been through this with my ex not acting usual texting or calling the bottom line is something is taking his time ?

It takes time I had a hard time with him because it drove me nuts!!! We can be support for each other thru this nightmear lol

Take care

[KatieL]

He texted me tonight and I know he is going through a wholeee lot of problems right now, I think hes depressed. He just lost a friend, he lost me, he has no money, the problems go on and on, hes just not happy.

That text i sent him and told him I wish he would let me back in his life, he responded, ive been letting you back in.

Then we talked and he vented to me cause he was upset and im worried for him, he told me he wished he could have seen me tonight.