frogiam Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I know this guy from my church, I'll call him Toni. Everytime he see me, he always says, "Hi Emma." No one else says my name, they just say hi and walk on by. He's a very popular guy, but his not dating any one. I know we have a lot in common, but I'm a shy and am not sure what to say or do. Please help me. I like him a lot.
misspaige Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Aww! First off, it's super cute that you like him enough that you don't know what to do. BUTTT.. you should just ask him whats up. See if he's interested in someone. Surely he's got a facebook!
frogiam Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 I already know he's not seeing or interested in some one else. I don't see he outside of church. He always has a lot of people around him and I don't want to ask him in front of other people. I've tried finding him on facebook but no luck there. His cell phone number is in the church directory should I send him a text?
misspaige Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 You should.. But make it casual. Don't just act like you are trying to hit him up. Think of something church related. You don't wanna sound too desperate.
laura40 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I agree with misspaige, you could send him a text message but keep it casual. Maybe something like this: "hey Toni, I keep seeing you around church and I noticed your number is in the directory so thought I'd message to say hello." Then add something about church or if you're feeling brave invite him out for a coffee (doesn't need to be a date, just a hang out).
frogiam Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Well, for some reason I couldn't think of anything church related to text him. I sat there for an hour or so, trying to think of something to say. Then it hit me, COOKING, we both love cooking and we both love garlic and grilling. Hear the text I sent him. "Hi, Toni I heard that you are looking for new recipes for your grill. Most of my recipes are to long for a text message but if you like we can trade recipes with emails. [inserted my email]" After I sent it, I realilized I did put my name on it and my number is not in the church directory and my email address is something to do with frogs not my name. I feel so stupid. I afraid if I send him another text it might come off as being desperate or something. What should I do now?
laura40 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Do you mean you didn't put your name on the end of the message, or did? Ok if you didn't & he still hasn't responded (remember to check your emails too incase he emailed you instead) then I'd message him again, just saying something like: "I forgot to tell you who it was on my last message, it's haha sorry!" Some people may disagree and say don't send another message but I don't think it looks desperate at all - my personal opinion. If he doesn't reply after sending another message stating your name, then don't text him again because it then goes into too much too soon territory.
Pineapplejuice Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I would have sent another message too. Immediately, and not let hours pass so my advice is useless by now lol. Just wait. He'll ask who you are, hopefully.
frogiam Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 OMG! You guys are not going to believe this. He showed up at my front door about 5:45 last night. And the first words out of his mouth was "You got any good recipes for grilling garlic?" I stood there speechless for about 5 minuted. I was like I finally shyly said ya. Next thing I know he's jumps into his car and takes off. I closed my door, sat down on my chair and started crying. Feeling so About 30 minuts later, he's back at my door. Flowers in one hand and a bag of groceries in the other. He said that he had a recipe to show me and the flowers was for him taking off the way he did. He forgot to tell me he would be right back. As we started cooking, he told me how he figured out it was me. There are only 4 other single ladies in our church and none of their number match the number to the text. He only lives a couple of blocks away and decided he want to see me. It turns out that he's been wanting to ask me out for months, but was afraid of being rejected. We spent the night talking and laughing and next thing we knew it was 3 in the morning. He had to go because he had to work today and needed some sleep. Just before he left, he took my hand and kissed it and then asked me out. We have a date Friday night so I can show him my recipe.
Pineapplejuice Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Omg! Awesomesauce! Why did he dare to show at that time? Sounds like the movies lol frogiam! I'm like... smiling in front of my screen right now.
Lansing Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Haha... wow... that is awesome.. Feels kind of surreal ... Wasn't expecting that kind of response.
WhiteFlower Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Thanks for sharing your story. It made me smile too. He sounds like a really nice guy. There's certainly something to be said for being direct like that! I like his style.
frogiam Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Hey there. Sorry haven't posted aything lately but I've been kind of busy Well anyway here a little update. Tony and I have seen each other almost everyday since my last post. I have really enjoyed our time together. But every date has ended the same way, with him kissing my hand. I've been wanting him to give me a real kiss. I have given him little hints. The other night when we were eating, I even told him his beard was sexy but he just laugh and took another bite. At the end of the night he start to kiss my hand again but this time I didn't let my hand get to his lips. I held to down about mid way up his chest. I looked he in the eyes and said to him, "You can kiss my lips if you want to." He fumbled around a minute like he didn't know what to do and then quickly kissed my hand. I'm starting to wonder if our height difference might be the problem with him kissing me. He's 6' 6" and I'm 4' 11". He's 10 year old daughter is taller that me. Or maybe I'm just rushing it. It's been 15 years since my fiance passed away three weeks before our wedding day. I haven't looked at another man and when I did, it was Tony. Should I be satisfied with him kissing me on my hand? Should I press him into talking about it? Should we just be friend who cook togther. What? I've been out of the game toooooooooo long and the rules have chanced. Some people need help but I need all the help I can get. lol
Vaglar Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Why the rush? You let him know it's OK to kiss you, so give him some time. He may be shy, who knows. Don't think too much about it, if you guys spend quality time with each other and enjoy it, it will happen naturally.
TalkThatTalk9 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 awww this is so cute. I agree with vaglar, just give it time. he sounds like a true gentleman, and you should just enjoy and cherish the courting he is doing. within time, he will kiss you. and I am sure it will be worth the wait
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