mattguy Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Wow, i cant believe its been three years. Ive blocked my ex and everyone associated to my ex on facebook. I dated someone for the past year, we just broke up. I went out last night and a mutual friend of my (ex from three years ago) was telling me how great the ex is! how theyve hit the gym and look fantastic! how they are now with someone new who makes them happy! All i could do was gulp down my vodka and goto the washroom to have a mini meltdown.i just drank and drank to numb the thoughts i was having... I dont know what happened, it just triggered something in me . Ive been depressed all day long. I feel a lonelieness that I havent felt in a long long time... its been three years...THREE YEARS.... i dont know what to do, what can you do. I even went for therapy right after the break up but it seems like it hasnt helped...why arent i in a great place like my ex is. does this pain ever go away i hope someone can lend me some advice or kind words, im in a dark place right now...
Tom1990 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Ouch. How long were you guys together? Was it a bad breakup? That was crappy of the mutual friend to bring that up like that.
mattguy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 we were together for a year. it was a very intense relationship, with extremely high highs, and incredible lows. we spent pretty much every single day and night together for that year. My insecurity broke us up in the end . I was scared of losing them so i got clingy and controlling. I have even asked this person not to tell me anything regarding my ex but i think they like to bother me with it for some reason.... sigh
Mr_LFA Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 It sounds like you're in pain about your most recent breakup, so hearing about your ex from 3 years ago at this time is kinda like rubbing salt on a wound. I'm in a similar situation, just broke up with someone and it looks like my first love/only LTR, is having the time of her life! stupid FB...
mattguy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 It sounds like you're in pain about your most recent breakup, so hearing about your ex from 3 years ago at this time is kinda like rubbing salt on a wound. I'm in a similar situation, just broke up with someone and it looks like my first love/only LTR, is having the time of her life! stupid FB... lol..yes facebooks great when we want to torture ourselves... at least i havent contacted the ex in the past year... it really sucks when they have so clearly moved on
DerekJason Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 man, matt thats crappy. hopefully you pull yourself from it. g'luck dude. why not delete her from your fb? i did, i had second thoughts afterwards, but i think it was for the best in the long run.
Mr_LFA Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 lol..yes facebooks great when we want to torture ourselves... at least i havent contacted the ex in the past year... it really sucks when they have so clearly moved on I wonder if Mr Zuckerberg realises that his baby can be an instant self-torturing device. I think contacting exes just sets you up for being a sucker for punishment... it does suck but we can't do anything about it other than move on ourselves to better things.
Pinnacle Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 If people ever get into multiple romantic relationships, there is always that ONE person that comes into mind at the most random moments in your life. Shopping at the grocery store? BAM memory of buying bananas at Trader Joe's. Going swimming? BAM memory of the time you went to a waterpark. Sometimes it isnt even the person you are with or married to. Usually, the most nostalgic memories come from the person who greatly influenced your life. The memories of losing your virginity are vivid, but the 20th new partner not so much so. So it happened to you at the bar. Not the best place, but you need to find a way to move on. Enjoy the memories for what they were, but don't let them interfere from moving forward.
resilient7 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I feel you man! I am a little over 3 yrs since my ex left me and not a single day goes by that I dont think of her.Anytime I heard or saw anything to do with my ex my heart sunked int my stomach and I would have a lousy few weeks because of it,no matter what it was....just the reading of her MSN username would throw me into a tailspin.All I can say is look out for youself and do you at this time.I'm on a journey to getting the body of my dreams but not for her,sure it started and was prompted by her but for me! It does suck big monkey and I know that feeling you had in the bathroom cause I have it 2 to 3 times a week still.best of luck brah.
Firesiren Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Sucks Been there really. I am also 3 years but be strong you are never 100% sure what others say is true.Be happy with yourself work on you and find what makes you strong by yourself. Have faith it all works out in the end and if it is not working out it means its not the end ;P
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