johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Hello All. My wife and her best friend want to share me. Upon talking to them both they would like me to accept her friend into our marriage as a second wife. The friend promises great sex and to help with chores. I remain skeptical but they both seem serious. I would love some feedback, it sounds too good to be true. Thanx!
poetryandlyrics Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I wouldn't. what if the wife and the best friend has an argument? What happens then? Sounds very risky.
RedDress Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Go watch the show "sister wives". That type of arrangement has its own set of problems. I think that show demonstrates them pretty well...
blueidealist24 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Wow, are you serious?! Are they crazy?! I wouldn't do it! Eventually one of the 'wives' will decide you prefer the other and get angry. Isn't that illegal in most countries anyway?
PaintWithLight Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Hello All. My wife and her best friend want to share me. Upon talking to them both they would like me to accept her friend into our marriage as a second wife. The friend promises great sex and to help with chores. I remain skeptical but they both seem serious. I would love some feedback, it sounds too good to be true. Thanx! If all you are considering is the great sex and help with the chores then you have not given this enough though. Do some reading on polyamory. I think the two women are just having a smile at your expense. True polyamory relationships are not something entered into spur of the moment. Get your head past the idea of two willing women and consider Health insurance coverage, merging of personal possessions, sleeping arrangements, petty jealousies, the reaction of friends and family. Sorry to burst your bubble but there is quite a bit there to accommodate and assimilate. Good luck.
Sapientia Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Read Heinlein and line marriages. My opinion is that our society is too restrictive in how we view marriage. If I had another man in the marriage to dilute the craziness that is my husband (and perhaps another wife, vice-versa) then we might be staying married. Personally, I think its obvious the current model is broken. Sadly, society is too conservative for such an arrangement and few people are brave and organized enough to make it work. If you are serious, then I wish you luck.
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Ya i guess there is alot that could go wrong i should mention that weve all been friends for years and ive always had a thing for the friend and vice versa... But i knew it sounded too good lol. Might still try to get the supposed great sex but just the one time.
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Ironically just got a meesage from the friend which reads" love u lots and cant wait to see you." lol kinda scary
octour Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I had enough trouble with one woman in my life and the sex was off the hook and plentiful and my place was spotless! I can only imagine multiplying all the other stuff that went along with my RS by 2. Sounds like double trouble to me.
Fudgie Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Wow, are you serious?! Are they crazy?! I wouldn't do it! Eventually one of the 'wives' will decide you prefer the other and get angry. Isn't that illegal in most countries anyway? It's only illegal if you actually try to marry the other woman too. Nothing in the law says you can't live with multiple women and treat them all as wives. I have to wonder about the motivations behind them wanting this.
PaintWithLight Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Ya i guess there is alot that could go wrong i should mention that weve all been friends for years and ive always had a thing for the friend and vice versa... But i knew it sounded too good lol. Might still try to get the supposed great sex but just the one time. If you say "great sex " one more time than your wife is gonna know you have been hot for her friend since the beginning. Danger. Danger.
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 definitely wouldnt marry the other one legitamately, lol, so doesnt want a ring either. They were pretty in depth. I think theve been talking about this for awhile
Capricorn3 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 definitely wouldnt marry the other one legitamately, lol, so doesnt want a ring either. They were pretty in depth. I think theve been talking about this for awhile So basically they want a threesome.
Dixi Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Maybe they are setting you up for a fall, or should that be fool!
Miss Firecracker Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Could cause some problems down the road. This is what happened in our area this week. Woman and her husband were living with his adopted son. She ended up with children from both men. We drove by the lot where the beheaded body lay for a couple of days. link removed
abitbroken Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I would sit down and have a conversation with your wife and ask her what brought this on, and that your vows involved loving her and only her. This way you will know that she is not merely "testing you" - because if she is just doing this to test what you'll do, you won't fall for it. Also, could it be possible that she is lesbian and wants an excuse to have threesomes with you and her friend without revealing that? Also, think for a minute - do you have kids?
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 They definitely dont want a threesome, theyd take turns or so they say. I believe my wife endorsed this as a way to be able to have less sex with me lol. My wife thinks its a chore, and her friend is willing to help lol. Also they are constantly texting all day and want to spend more time together. Her friend does the housework... In turn gets me as her man, and my wife does less. Win win... For them anyway.
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I do have one 18 month old daughter. They even went as far to say my wife would have one more and the friend could have sex with me while she's pregnant. The friend wants no kids of mine, but would be referred to as auntie. They have really thought this over
lavenderdove Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Here's how I see this playing out... GF moves in, wife eventually has another baby, then both women leave you and live together and you end up paying double child support to the happy couple. Perhaps your wife doesn't want to have sex with you because she's a lesbian in love with her GF. Yes, they have indeed really thought it over. They get their 2 kids, and you get to pay for a divorce and a lot of child support. Come back in a year. The idea won't seem so wonderful then. If all you want is sex on the side, get permission from your wife to have an open marriage rather than this situation which sounds more like an opportunity for your wife to have her GF around all the time until the second child arrives, then they both bolt, leaving you and keeping the house and enough of YOUR money to raise 'their' kids together.
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Very valid points. My wife is definitely not a lesbian. Weve talked before and she refuses to do anything more to a woman than kiss. All these pounts sound very scary. I will tell them its a no go for sure! Thanks for your opinion and i will pose one more question. Would it be worth a shot to have a one night stand with the friend if my wife is okay with it. Which she is oddly enough?
Lonewing Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 You have a wife...and she has procured for you, a mistress? I have found some of the notes about plural wive cultures to be interesting. The home cultures aren't so much male driven, as they are female driven... I don't know what to say...maybe your wife is a lesbian and she just doesn't know it yet? Or maybe she's just being honest...and she's found her "perfect solution?" I don't know...
Huntress0527 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I think this is a very bad idea and if you go through with it it's going to blow up in your face. I would be insulted if my husband wanted to bring another man into our marriage.
Lonewing Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 If your wife looks at sex with you as a chore, and she's willing to go this far, I'm not sure if you have anything to lose... Damned if you do, damned if you don't? Your wife is getting a wife, and you're getting a playmate...wooo...
johnyblaze Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 My marriage isnt great, were just going through the motions. We wont be getting divorced, but ill always feel blah and bored so that is why i wanted to do this at all. Youre so right damed if i do damed if i dont. Wouldnt be too sad to trade the wife for the friend. I do like her better.
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