Boyfriend wanting to touch me ALL the time?

[curious987]

I've been with my boyfriend for a few years now. We're only young - early 20's.

Generally speaking, we have a great relationship. We connect well on most if not all levels.

 

But what I've noticed lately (maybe its been happening all along, not sure), is that my boyfriend is always wanting to touch me in a sexual way. Like touching my boobs, butt, etc. But its so much touching that its nearly a turn off for me.

 

Its like we can't even cuddle for a few minutes without his hands wandering. He is always complementing me. Now don't get me wrong, I am greatful that even after a few years of being together he still finds me very attractive. But all the touching is making it seem, well, not so special when we actually do act sexually together, because its just happening all the time.

 

I know he's in he's 'sexual prime' - being in his early 20's. Is it normal for him to behave in this way?

[tatis]

Well, I'd say it is normal if you have been denying full sex with him for long time. Men usually feel more frequently aroused than women. At least that is what I have observed through my own experience.

[Fudgie]

My boyfriend gets very handsy/cuddly when we haven't been able to have sex in 2-3 days and we finally get together in person and can do it. I think it's just his way of showing that he's horny.

 

He's still cuddly after we have sex though.

[pinkelephant]

Mine's like that too because he's horny all the time lol. I just figured it was normal and the thing is, I kinda like it. If it bothers you, you should tell him. He can control himself. It's normal for him to be horny and handsy when he's horny though.

[Lendar]

This is very normal. As pinkelephant said he is horny all the time and he is in that age. Man with 20 years are full of sexual desire. If it bothers you too much tell him to stop.

[S.Ken]

You would miss it if he did stop.

[Leya]

My guy is the same way and he is 35! And we are pretty active so it's not like he's hard up or anything.

I dunno, I just tell him "Not tonight" and he will get the picture (and does NOT get moody or sullen, which is much appreciated). But he still is very physically affectionate even afterwards, even knowing it's not going to lead anywhere sexual. He just enjoys cuddling, touching etc. And I am not going to stop him from that. He is just more into the physical affection/touching than I am (including kissing, hugging, snuggling, etc)...but I love him so I don't let it bother me too much -it's something that makes him happy and it's nice that he still obviously is in to me!!

So as long as you don't feel pressured into sex, enjoy the fact that he is into you And just be firm if you don't want him groping you in a sexual way that particular day.

 

(just a note, I grew up in a family that showed ZERO affection - received NO hugs from mother/father, no "I love you's" etc...so when I started dating it was WEIRD for me when the guys started all this hugging, caressing, affectionate words, etc lol. So I had to adjust to it.)

[Avila]

My ex really liked my butt. I don't think he took his hand's off it for the whole four years we were together. My sister once got exasperated with him and asked 'Do you ever NOT have your hand on her a**?' But to be honest it wasn't always sexual, it's just like... idk. His hands were magnetically drawn to my butt?! LOL.

 

I get where you're coming from though. There's cuddle touch and there's sexual touch and it's blurring for you. Just tell him that you'd find cuddling more enjoyable if he kept his hands to neutral zones.

[Lonewing]

Let's put it this way...

 

We started touching ourselves as soon as we knew there were things to touch.

 

We've been told ever since our moms and dads have noticed us touching, to stop touching. We just got better at doing it when they didn't notice...

 

When it's too much, let him know to stop. But do give him ample time to touch, between breaks. Getting restricted to Neutral Zones can be kind of a turnoff.