dilmno Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Hello I have some really bad premature ejaculation, this is because I over masturbated in my younger years, now I can blow my load withing 30 seconds. I suspect its because i trained myself to ejaculation quickly by masturbating quickly over the years, I also have other issues and side effects of masturbation. I recently reduce my frequency from twice a day to 3-4 times a week, and some side effects went away but the premature ejaculation, has not gotten any better. How can I get rid my premature ejaculation ? I'm guessing completely stopping masturbation will make it even worse, any suggestions?, masturbate slower? or other technique? I've got girl but we didn't sleep each other yet. I'm nervous. Please help. thank you.
alwaysmoving Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Masturbate right before you have sex with her.
tatis Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 try masturbation till right before eyaculation and stop waiting for a minute; then go on again. It's a kind of exercise to learn to control yourself. However if the afection is rather severe, you will have to see a doctor.
PaintWithLight Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Wait. Are you having fast orgasms from sex or just from masturbation. Premature ejaculation is mostly a term used in relation to fast orgasm during sex. Being able to orgasm quickly is not the same thing. Premature means unable to prolong things, even if you wanted to. I think you are worrying about something that may or may not happen. All first sex is awkward. Just build the trust and communication.
axwell Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Just build the trust and communication. i agree medical advice can help, there are books and manuals for such situations just search. are the specific problems. I was masturbating and I do not have such problems
lyan456 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 There're many different people and different bodies, I think. Maybe you should think it over and try to solve it together. . I thinkt courses like this can improve your relationship. I'm sure you shouldn't leave this situation so. In my opinion the best solution is heart-to-heart talk with your partner.
Roxie84 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 This sounds like more of a habitual issue than "premature ejaculation" in the true sense of the term. Not to worry, there are many things you can try to change your technique. I'll offer a few suggestions, but I highly recommend consulting a men's health forum and expert articles written on this topic in order to really benefit from your research. A simple googling of "how to last longer in bed" will generate countless valuable articles and videos on the subject As for my suggestions: 1. Don't rely on visuals when you masterbate. I know men differ from women in that they prefer visuals over fantasy (hense why most pronography is geared towards men). But really try to lay back and get into a fantasy. Move slower, tease yourself - please your body more delicately. Just make sure you are concentrating on your body and the sensations instead of paying attention to distracting visuals. Allow yourself to get excited before you even touch your penis. If you work at it, you'll learn the best from practicing with your own body. 2. Hold off. Next time you are masterbating and you feel an orgasm coming, slowwww down. Rub much slower, and only gently touch the sensitive spot under the head of the penis. You can also relax by only gently holding the penis while gently rubbing the taint (the space between your testicles and your butt). This will relax you, but they are sensitive areas and it will keep you excited. If you have a difficult time holding back, don't sweat it. Try a few times, take deep breaths, and concentrate on slowing down. If you still can't control it, you can make a ring with your finger and hold it firmly around the base of the penis. This will maintain your erection by restricting the blood flow, and it will stop you from orgasming. 3. Consider using a c0ckring. It may be advanced, and you may not want to use it the first time you have sex with your girlfriend. But you can buy a c0ckring and try it while you're masterbating. This may only be a band-aid solution to your issue, but it will get you used to the sensations you'll feel when trying to slow down. 4. Try a topical numbing cream or spray. I highly recommed a product called Stud 100. You can pick it up from your local sex shop. This stuff sells like crazy at my store, and it is condom safe! That means if it helps you hold off, you can use it during sex with your girlfriend. Feel free to do some research on it before you purchase it, but it is completely safe and effective. I have faith in you! And once you learn how to hold off, you'll be able to experience much more intense orgasms - added bonus! Hope this helps
Day_Walker Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I think that masturbation is very little to do with your premature ejaculation. You are going to have to use your PC muscles in order to train yourself to delay your ejaculation.
axwell Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 beautiful Roxie84 try read site eg gushcontrol etc. talk to the girl, she can help with the problem, if it comes to sex, masturbation will not be needed
dilmno Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Ok thanks for the advice. A lot of that, I didn'tt expect Roxie84 , thank you for describing councils in points. I will try to apply for your advice. Axwell, also heard about gushcontrol. Perhaps also ask the advice of these experts. Thanks
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