kim3 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Hi all, This is my story: In january of this year I went on vacation to my country, Chile. The day I arrived I went out with friends and one of them introduced me to the guy who is now my boyfriend. We had a wonderful time together and by the end of my trip he told me he wanted us to try to have a long distance relationship for this year and then try to work things out to be there or here. He has come to New York 2 times and I went back to Chile once. We have seen each other about 1.5 months in total. During these 6 months we have had mostly a happy relationship, however, maybe because of the distance we have had some arguments over insignificant things. I feel many things for him and he does too but I don't think we are in love yet... we are getting there. We already talked about that... we feel we are right for each other and maybe feelings will grow more if we spend more time together. We are very committed to the relationship. He was able to find a job here and he will move in with me in September. I want to be with him, but I wonder if moving in together is the right thing to do knowing that our feelings are not that strong yet. Well, just wanted your opinions. I'm 31, he's 32. Thank you for your advice!
Capricorn3 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I think you'll get 50/50 replies - half will support it and the other half would be against it. Speaking for myself only, no, I wouldn't move in with him, or have him move in with me, not at this stage anyway. I would say that the fact that you clearly have doubts about it yourself and have to ask others, then it is best to trust your gut instinct. If in doubt, DON'T.
rahul131982 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Agree with capricorn..... You might be jeapordising the relationship by moving in too fast......
chickydoodle Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 If in doubt, wait until you feel more sure. There is no hurry.
kim3 Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Hi all, thank you for your opinions. Hmm I'll give it some more thought then. He's already making all the arrangements and I'm between excited and worried.
mhowe Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 He can move here and not move in with you. You have only had "vaca" visits --- not reality time. Let him come and get adjusted to new life here, and live on his own. After a year, you can reassess. You should never live w/ a guy with whom you have "romantic possibilities" purely for financial reasons. You are smart to let the love grow at its own pace.
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